Post # 1
My fiance was originally from the East coast and we’re having a wedding in the West coast. So, all the groomsmen will be coming from out of state. While I would love for the bridal party to sit together at the head table, I feel bad because the groomsmen’s wifes/guests will be separated from them for the entire wedding. As they are out of towners who don’t know the area or the majority of the wedding guests, is it inconsiderate for me to separate them? While I like the look of having the bridal party sit with me, I feel bad that they will be traveling all this way and won’t be able to enjoy themselves.
Post # 3
I’ve heard of people doing it both ways, but I definitely think it sucks to split couples up like that. Especially for the spouses who don’t know other people. So I’d vote for letting them sit with their SOs, and keeping the ‘look’ of the wedding party for the photos.
Post # 4
As long as the spouses can sit together I think it’s ok. I attended a wedding with my FI (he was the best man) in another city where I knew absolutly no one and was seated with the wives of the other groomsman and it worked out perfectly fine. As long as you keep the significant others together and not sit them at a table with a bunch of couples I think it will be fine.
Post # 5
I personally don’t like seperating people from the SO’s and am opting to have a family table rather than a head table. I think it’s nice to include the SO’s or not have a head table at all. But that’s only my opinion 🙂
Post # 6
When my SO stood up in his friend’s wedding (not the BM), I was happy that we were able to sit together. The SO’s of the BM and MOH both sat at the head table. It was nice to keep the couples together and still near the bride & groom. The rest of the bridal party was integrated with the other guests. I thought it was nice.
Post # 7
we’re not having a headtable for this reason… (well this and i thnk headtables are outdated…)
Post # 8
i was a guest at one wedding where I got stuck all by myself at table- its a little miserable.
and the last wedding i went to I was a bridesmaid. And I was TOTALLY delighted to be able to sit with my boyfriend at the reception.
Please do whatever you like- but remember its a little sad to be the date/girlfriend/wife of someone who is sitting someplace else then you.
Post # 9
i personally think it’s nicer to the SOs to not break them apart. my fiance and i went to a wedding a few years ago – and he (as a groomsman) sat at the head table. not only was he kinda bummed (he didn’t know a lot of the others in the bridal party) but i was pretty bummed as well – and drowned my sorrows in alcohol! not a smart move, i might add. for my own wedding we are not having a head table – because i don’t want any dates to feel like i did (and of course i wouldn’t want them to abuse the open bar because of it!!) 🙂 good luck!!
Post # 10
i agree to not breaking SOs apart. my bridal party will also be sitting at separate places, but with their SOs.
Post # 11
We are having multiple tables (3) reserved for the wedding party and family/SOs. They are all adjacent to each other, and I’m sure people will hop back and forth. But everyone will be together – with us and with their SO.
Post # 12
the first wedding i was in, we all sat at a head table but i wasn’t dating anyone so it didn’t affect me at all. the second wedding i was in, the bride decided to let us all sit where ever we wanted since we all had dates which i was grateful for since my bf was coming from out of town and only knew a small handful of people. i just attended a wedding on sunday and the bride and groom sat with the parents and had the bridal party scattered around the room. i much prefer to let the bridal party sit with their SOs because their duties really only extends to the ceremony…they’re off the hook for the reception 🙂
Post # 13
As someone hwo has been in a ton of weddings and a guest of a groomsmen plenty of times, I can definitely say that it sucks to have to sit at separate tables. Especially if you’re not from the same circle of friends and will be sititng with virtual strangers. Since i’m also not a fan of sweetheart tables. I think we’re going to sit with the maid of honor, Best man and their guests and have the rest of the bridal party sit w/ their guests at the table next to ours. The tables will be identical, so it won’t be like sitting at the kids table or anything like that…
Post # 14
I was in the same dilemma. Then I realized that 1) I do not get along with one of the SO’s at all, and 2) only half of the wedding party has an SO anyway. It would be pointless to put them at the head table when it would be lopsided.
I’m probably going to stick any SOs at a table together. I’m not too worried about whether they feel left out, though, because they will each know at least 2 people at the wedding. 🙂
Post # 15
We have the same issue- I’m from the West Coast where our wedding is being held and he’s from the East Coast- I am opting to have 3 "head tables" (3 rounds that seat 10) so that the SO’s can sit with eachother. Most everyone in our wedding party is married and being that we don’t have many single people at the wedding I’d rather not have spouses sitting elsewhere feeling like a "third" wheel.
Post # 16
My Wedding Planner once told me, "If you like your wedding party, don’t seperate them from their partners"…..and I totally agree =)