Bridal Party Seating

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How should the bridal party and SOs sit?
    Bridal party only, at head table : (16 votes)
    29 %
    Everyone at one head table, SOs included : (28 votes)
    50 %
    Other, please specify in the comments : (12 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    What about a non-traditional shape for your head table? I plan to do this. 

    Those are 6′ tables by the way. Four of them. 

    Post # 4
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    417 posts
    Helper bee

    I voted to seat SO’s at the table too. 

    @Pinkmoon:  I like the non-traditional seating.  I’m not doing a head table for 2 reasons.  One, because I don’t want to seperate couples and two because my FI has 2 sons and I have guardianship of my niece and we are going to do a table with the 5 of us.

    Post # 6
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    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We had a sweetheart table.  It was a terrific respite from all the chaos and I actually got to sit quietly with my husband.  Awesome.

    I would have felt like a jerk splitting up couples.  If we did a head table including couples, it would have had 16 people at it, and we had 78 people show up at our wedding (though there were 88 RSVPs).  And I did not want to pick and choose who to seat at our table.  Too complicated and potentially insulting.

    Post # 7
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    469 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I am totally having bridal party SO’s at our head table! There is nothing worse than being at a wedding where you don’t know anyone and you’re sitting on your own. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    7195 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m going to pass on the BMs’ partners, but about the parents: in most traditions the parents do not sit at the head table, only the bridal party (i.e. groomsmen, groom, bride, bridesmaids). The parents usually sit at the two closest tables to the head table, one for groom’s family and one for bride’s family. My parents had a messy divorce too, so at my sister’s wedding there were 3 “close tables”: one for groom’s closest family, one for my father and his closest friends/family, one for my mother and her closest friends/family.

    Post # 9
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    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It depends on it your bridal party dates know other guests or not.  If they will only know people in the bridal party, it would be nice to seat them with their dates.  If they will have other friends there, it isn’t a big deal.  

    We did a 2 sided head table, so we could fit more around it.  We also had seperate family tables, you could put your mom at one table and your dad at another, with your FI’s parents at a table between them.  At the tables with the parents we also put grandparents and other close relatives.  They were like VIP tables, but not the head table (which is usually reserved for bridal party, not parents)

    Post # 10
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    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @gingerkid:  Oh ok, I thought maybe they could be at opposite ends or something. We are putting the table in the middle of all the round guest tables. 

    Post # 11
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    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Muckenthaler Cultural Center

    Sweetheart table! That way BP can sit with their SOs, and you can seat your family closest to the sweetheart table if you want to be near them. 

    Post # 12
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    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I’m have a sweetheart table for FI and I.. and two rounds for bridal party and their family or SO. Then did rounds for parents and grandparents.  There were SO’s that didn’t really know anyone and some with small children and I just lucked out that my numbers were even for tables.

    Post # 13
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    917 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We’re refusing both a sweetheart table AND a traditional head table. The Last Supper look is not my thing, nor is missing out on chatting at dinner with my nearest and dearest friends. I eat dinner with just FI every day. Instead, we’re simply sitting at a regular 6-top table with us, the MOH, her boyfriend, the Best Man, and his wife. All other attendants and parents will be seated at tables to reflect their friends/families. 

    When one of my BMs got married she chose a round, 8-top table that consisted of: her, her DH, both groomsmen, both bridesmaids, and the lone bridal party date (the other three didn’t bring anyone). We had a blast! That lone date was my now FI. It was wonderfully thoughtful of her to invite him, despite not really knowing him, because she didn’t want to split me from my date. This thoughtfulness is one of the reasons she’s one of my closest friends.

    Post # 15
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    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We are intermixing the wedding party amongst the rest of the guests, with who they would be comfortable sitting with.  We are also intermixing ourselves.  We don’t like being the center of attention so no head table or sweetheart table.  Besides, we want to socialize with other people during dinner, not just ourselves.

    Post # 16
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    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Oops, I voted before I read your post. We’re doing a sweetheart table, with a table for the bridesmaids and their +1s and one for the groomsmen and their +1s.

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