- 7 years ago
I just got engaged (yay!) and we are quickly jumping into the planning process. We want to lock in our bridal party, and have both been thinking about it a while before we got engaged. However, since my fiance has SO many friends and I have not that many, it’s causing issues already.
Now, I don’t care about the parties being even. I plan to have 5 girls including the MOH and FI plans to have six including two best men. I figured that this worked out great, but since two of the girls are junior bridesmaids, and FI really wants an even party, I do have ONE more girl in mind who I’d like to ask. Perfect, right? Not so much!
Here’s the issue. I have these three friends who I have know forever and always assumed they would be bridesmaids because they were not only my best friends, but we always talked about our future weddings. Over the years, we had falling outs and just lost touch and while I still see them when they’re in town, we don’t talk on a regular basis and are not very close. They all live in different states now, though I know they would travel home for my wedding if they are able.
If I ask one of these girls, I have to ask all of them… literally. I can’t choose one over the other. There would be different reasons for choosing each, so I really can’t even choose one. One of them has money problems and straight out told me that her and friend #2 would be upset if they weren’t bridesmaids…BEFORE I was even engaged!
My current bridal party is ALL family. Sister, two cousins, two nieces. If I’m going to ask just one more girl, I would actually want to ask one of the best men’s girlfriends, who I have become very close with in the almost 3 years I’ve been with FI. She lives locally and I see her almost every weekend, and in the time I’ve know here, she’s always been there for me AND to support me and FI’s relationship.
The problem is, I know my friends would be so offended, and most likely furious, to know that I chose someone else over them.
Six people per side is the abolute max that I want (I originially wanted 4 max) and FI even wants MORE than that. I told him I’d just ask one more, just for him….
So, who do I choose?!
Brides, did you choose someone you’ve known less time over close childhood friends for any reason?