(Closed) Bridal Party Selection Woes

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What Bridal Party Option is best?
    Keep 6 each: his 3 brothers and 3 friends; your 3 sisters and 3 friends : (9 votes)
    90 %
    Go with 8 each: same as opt. 1, plus your 2 brothers; FBIL's gf, and your cousin : (0 votes)
    Go with 8 each: same as opt. 1, plus your 2 brothers, FBIL's gf and FH's e-photo friend : (1 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    You could always have uneven numbers on each side – if you really want your brothers to be in the BP. It just sounds like you’re not too keen on having your cousin as a BM – which is ok and you shouldn’t feel like you “have to” ask her on account of your aunt, etc. I wouldn’t add people that I didn’t particularly care about just for the sake of keeping numbers even.

    Post # 5
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    9230 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I didn’t vote because I think you should just pick whomever you want, regardless of the number.  With that many people, it won’t look weird to have 1 or 2 more men than women.  Skip the cousin, she sounds like trouble.  Pick the FI’s brother’s GF only if you’re actually close to her and you think she’ll be around for the long haul.  Otherwise I think 8 men, 6 women is best.

    ETA – anal about evenness… I dunno then.  I definitely think you should only have people standing by you who are your *best* friends/family.  Especially since you wedding is still SO far away!  Think about all the changes and drama that could go down with people who aren’t really 100% there for you…

    Could your brothers be ushers, or walk your grandmas in?  Or do a reading?

    Post # 6
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    2965 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @pennylou13:  +1! I would only ask people who you are close with. And remember the cost of adding people to your bridal party (bouquets for each girl, gifts, etc). I would think VERY carefully about this. I originally had 6 girls then lost 3 because they will show their true colors during this time. You will soon find out that a wedding brings out the worst in people. Less people less headache.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I would bump to 8 if you really think your brothers will be upset to not be included. If it wouldn’t be a big deal I would keep it at 6 because it is much better to have your bridal party be close friends and family to minimize drama. 

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