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    megs08    05/31/08   Richmond, VA

    Anyone out there have advice on how to manage bridal party related stress?  I feel like I need to please everyone and I am being pulled in several different directions. I have tried to be very thoughtful and make decisions with all of their interests in mind but still feel frustrated. Bridal Party Stress :  wedding Icon Sad 

     
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    megs08    05/31/08   Richmond, VA

    Sorry about the duplicate posts... I hit refresh when the computer froze and didn't realized it would repost!

     
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    FutureMrs       New York

    I was really bad about that in the beginning too, but then I came to realize that you just can't please everyone no matter how hard you try.  So while it is really nice to attempt to please everyone, it just may just cause you alot more stress!  I think it is best to try and stop worrying what everyone is going to think (without going over the top of course).  For example, if you want the BM's to help pick out the dresses, select a style first, or pick a handful of dresses YOU like and let them vote on a winner.   Things like that might make it alot less stressful!!  Good luck!!

     
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    SoCalBeachGirl    07/07   Boston, MA

    Take deep breaths, we all go through it!  I think the best way to handle it is to manage expectations as best as possible, but realize that you can't please everyone!

    Looks like your wedding date is fast approaching at the end of this month, and this is usually the time it gets really intense.  Is there any way you can talk to each of your BMs individually or together in a group to say, "OK, here's the quick list of things that I am expecting from you guys.  What do you need from me and how can I make this experience great for all of us?"

    I wish people would tell brides that they shold you this upfront when asking people to be in your wedding.  It would save a lot of heartache.  There's still time to get it all on table, so you have a great time leading up to the wedding and on the day off.  Best of luck, it really does turn out great.

     

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