Post # 1
…and we are shelling out $500 each for the shower, and I really do not have more $ to get the bride a gift on top of that. The shower is a surprise for the bride, so unless she sees the invite (where it says the bridal party hosted it), she will not know that we are throwing it for her. I found out that the other bridesmaids are getting her a gift, so I don’t want to look like a cheapo..what do I do?!? I can’t tell the bride “FYI I spent a ton of $ on your shower that’s why you aren’t getting a gift from me”..HELP!
PS: I should add that me and another bridesmaid put together a lingerie line for her too, so that is an extra cost to me as well
Post # 3
wow that is a bit on the expensive side, at least by my standards. Is there a chance that this extra cost you incurred would be your gift (I am not sure if I understood this correctly so my suggestion may sound stupid)
Post # 4
@braz: Yes it could, but still the other bridesmaids are getting her something off of the Bride’s regsitry. So as much as I wish I could, I really cannot afford it.
Post # 5
from my understanding, the shower is the gift. You are not required to bring her a gift. Im sure she will figure out who the hostesses are!
Post # 6
What about choosing something in the $10-$20 range off her registry (like a cutting board or dish towels). Alternatively, you could DIY – like a picture frame or something else sentimental.
Post # 7
oh and also I had two hostesses for my shower and only one got me a gift. I was totally fine with that. I knew they had spent a lot on my shower! hope this helps
Post # 8
$500 each for the shower?! Ridiculous! You need to give it to her straight, you paid too much for her shower to afford a gift on top of that.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Not sure what a lingerie line is– but that sounds like a gift to me…
Why not get her a card and include a “voucher” for a girl’s night or a romantic home cooked meal for her and her FI on a night of their choosing (which postpones the cost until a later date, and you can do a simple low cost meal then). $500 is a lot to spend, and if you can’t afford more, your friend wont want to breaking the bank just to get her some item she probably doesn’t need anyway.
Post # 10
Can you maybe do a scrapbook with photos of you and the bride ? it will be something you made for her yourself and it may also illustrate your friendship through the years
Post # 11
One of my BM’s hosted my shower, and I in no way expected a gift from her, IMO the shower is the gift 🙂
Post # 12
The bride will definitely know who the hosts were! She needs to to write thank you cards. 🙂
If you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it. Can you afford something small? Maybe DIY like a PP suggested?
Post # 13
What about a homemade gift? Like a bottle of wine and 2 wineglasses in a cute basket? Or a “coupon” for the two of you to get manis/pedis after she gets back from the honeymoon? I agree you shouldn’t have to get a gift, but this might be an easy way to give her something!
Post # 14
1) If you’re hosting the shower that can be your gift. It might be nice to get something small but if you don’t get anything I wouldn’t stress.
2) Holy cow! What are you doing at this bridal shower? Eating gold? I’d cut back on the shower costs regardless of whether or not you’re bringing a gift.
Post # 15
My MOH threw me a shower and I certainly didn’t expect her to get me anything on top of that. While it is a kind guesture of the other BM to get her something it certainly isn’t required and shouldn’t be expected.