(Closed) Bridal party throwing the Bridal Shower, I can't afford a gift on top of it

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

wow that is a bit on the expensive side, at least by my standards. Is there a chance that this extra cost you incurred would be your gift (I am not sure if I understood this correctly so my suggestion may sound stupid)

Post # 5
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665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

from my understanding, the shower is the gift. You are not required to bring her a gift. Im sure she will figure out who the hostesses are!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What about choosing something in the $10-$20 range off her registry (like a cutting board or dish towels). Alternatively, you could DIY – like a picture frame or something else sentimental.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

oh and also I had two hostesses for my shower and only one got me a gift. I was totally fine with that. I knew they had spent a lot on my shower! hope this helps

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

$500 each for the shower?!  Ridiculous!  You need to give it to her straight, you paid too much for her shower to afford a gift on top of that.

Post # 9
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3472 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Not sure what a lingerie line is– but that sounds like a gift to me… 

 

Why not get her a card and include a “voucher” for a girl’s night or a romantic home cooked meal for her and her FI on a night of their choosing (which postpones the cost until a later date, and you can do a simple low cost meal then).  $500 is a lot to spend, and if you can’t afford more, your friend wont want to breaking the bank just to get her some item she probably doesn’t need anyway.  

 

Post # 10
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131 posts
Blushing bee

Can you maybe do a scrapbook with photos of you and the bride ? it will be something you made for her yourself and it may also illustrate your friendship through the years

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

One of my BM’s hosted my shower, and I in no way expected a gift from her, IMO the shower is the gift 🙂

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

The bride will definitely know who the hosts were! She needs to to write thank you cards. 🙂

If you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it. Can you afford something small? Maybe DIY like a PP suggested?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

What about a homemade gift?  Like a bottle of wine and 2 wineglasses in a cute basket?  Or a “coupon” for the two of you to get manis/pedis after she gets back from the honeymoon?  I agree you shouldn’t have to get a gift, but this might be an easy way to give her something!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

2 things:

1) If you’re hosting the shower that can be your gift. It might be nice to get something small but if you don’t get anything I wouldn’t stress.

2) Holy cow! What are you doing at this bridal shower? Eating gold? I’d cut back on the shower costs regardless of whether or not you’re bringing a gift.

Post # 15
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11174 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@maggiemay0811:  Agreed.

My MOH threw me a shower and I certainly didn’t expect her to get me anything on top of that. While it is a kind guesture of the other BM to get her something it certainly isn’t required and shouldn’t be expected.

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