- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I haven’t posted many times but often read the advice that many of you give and I’m in desperate need of some! Sorry for the long winded story but I think you need the background…
When my fiancé asked me to marry him the bridal party was a no brainer. I was only going to have my sister despite him having 2 groomsmen. I was convinced that odd numbers didn’t matter. I have 3 best friends and couldn’t decide between them. So I made a decision not to choose any.
After a month the MC who we had asked had to pull out as his sister was getting married on the same day. So I then asked our obvious next choice who was one of my 3 girlfriends. One of my girlfriends was really put out when she was not asked, saying that she was never going to be a bridesmaid and that I was the last girlfriend with whom she’d have a chance. Anyway I’d been thinking about asking one of my girlfriends (not the one who was out out) for about a month or 2. She would’ve been my first choice as I’ve known her since I was 13. I asked her and was over the moon about having her in my bridal party. Until I realised that I would have to tell my other friend – who had wanted to be in my wedding party most of all – that she wasn’t going to be in it.
So now a month has gone past and I’m going to see her in Adelaide this weekend and don’t know how to break the news to her. I know it’s all about how you say something and I do care about her so I don’t want to hurt her, but I think inevitably I will. I would still like her to play a part in the ceremony like maybe do a reading or poem or something, but I’m scared that won’t be enough.
Please help me Bee’s! Has anyone gone through something like this before?