Post # 1
Please help… As our 2013 winter wedding approaches…we are now in full swing with planning. I have run into a problem however. We are having a mid sized wedding, our guest list is at 160. The problem I am running into is what is an appropriate number of bridesmaids. I would like 3 of my girlfriends, 1 cousin and my two sisters. I mean yikes is that too extreme for a wedding with a guest list of 160. My sisters are twins and I just cant imagine the day without them in the actual wedding party. They funny thing is they are in there early 20’s and dont really mind just attending. Hive help.. am I nuts. Should I just pick whatever number pleases me. Or am I correct and worrying about a huge bridal party for an mid sized wedding.
Post # 3
nah, 6 is fine. i’ve got 6 and we’re inviting 175.
Post # 4
you can have any number of attendants you like, no matter what the size of your wedding is 🙂
Post # 5
I think that sounds totally fine. I am having 6 BM’s, and FI is having 6 or 7 groomsmen, and we’re inviting about 230 people (figure anywhere from 170-230 will actually show up). I’ve heard of the “rule” or guideline that you should only have one BM for every 50 guests or whatever. I really think this is a flexible standard depending on the situation. Your BM’s should be chosen based on who is important to you, not a quota you need to fill or a cap you need to impose. So if, for example, someone is inviting 100 people to her wedding and wants 5 ladies to be her BM’s because she has a close relationship with each of them, I see no problem with that. I think it’s only weird where the bridal party is hugely out of balance with the size of the wedding itself – like 10 BM’s in a wedding of 50 or 60 guests.
Post # 6
Thank you ladies.. sometimes it just takes hearing others say it and the burden is lifted… Im a happy content bride that can get some sleep now… Tomorrow is another day to obess about another detail…. kidding!
Whew… what a support group!
Post # 7
Congrats on wedding planning! I was just reading about this in my Emily Post etiquette book last night. The “rule of thumb” is about 1 bridesmaid per 50 guests. So 200 guests = 4 bridesmaid, 150 = 3.
Consider, how big is the altar? Is there enough room for everyone to stand? How will having 6 bridesmaids affect your budget (in my case, all of my BMs have +1s, so our headcount went up by 6 people). Also, consider how this might affect who your groomie asks to stand up on his side.
Of course it is YOUR wedding and you can ask whoever you want! I have about 150 people attending and have 6 bridesmaids. We have a large altar so everyone will ‘fit’ during the ceremony. I love all of my girls and am SO looking forward to having them by my side when I walk down the aisle!
Post # 8
pick however many people you want! you dont wanna have people up there “just to have more people” but i think u should just pick people you know you wanst up there!! whether it be 1 or 20! lol its your day!
Post # 9
You are okay to have six or seven. Don’t stress yourself out. Remember its your day and your putting on a show for people to come see you. I think its fine I am having 6 and I only have 120 guest.
Post # 10
Whatever you want is fine! We are only have 85 guests and I have 4 bridesmaids!!
Post # 11
Ladies thank you agin!
The feedback is so helpful !!!!!
Post # 12
I am having around 100 guests, and 5 BMs. Sometimes I worry that it will seem awkward, but I couldn’t cut anyone out!! The only thing you have to consider is that you may have to do non-traditional seating. We decided to do a sweetheart table so that our party can sit with their dates, but we don’t have a head table with a fifth of the guests all sitting at it!