- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
…..and fine, also the unhappy rule that my venue won’t open before 6PM!
First off let me preface this by saying that both FI and I are Catholic and there was never any doubt that we’d have a Catholic ceremony. Catholics cannot have a wedding outside an actual church, unless you have a very good reason (and no, “because I want it in a lavender field because it’s so pretty!” is not an acceptable reason).
With that being said, I am SO frustrated that 9/10 of churches in our area do not have any other wedding timeslots other than 2PM! And the ONE that does have a ‘reasonable’ 5PM timeslot? Um.. yeah not a church I want to get married in really.
The church FI and I chose to get married in is a gorgeous church that is also very dear to my heart, and it happens to be in downtown SF. It’s a convenient location for our 75% out-of-town guest list since hotels are all around the area.The only problem, as I mentioned, is that it has only the 2PM for a wedding ceremony. Add to that the fact that the wedding venue we chose doesn’t open their doors until 6PM. Le sigh.
I tried, I really did. I begged and pleaded with both the church and the venue to give me at least one hour to minimize the 2-3 hour gap we’ll be having. No one budged. I even considered having our reception at another location when they said they “might be able to start at 5PM”. Turns out they could not, so nix that idea.
I know both our reception and wedding venues are exactly what we want for our wedding, the only catch is the we had to sacrifice a couple of hours to get both. In the past I’ve been to weddings outside of the US where there were 1-2 hour gaps and I never had a problem with them, I just thought they were the norm. But after living in the continental US for several years and attending weddings here, I’m acutely aware that people think anything more than a one hour gap is considered rude.
It also doesn’t help that I’ve read several other Bee threads where the posters have violent reactions to long gaps. I feel like sobbing helplessly sometimes when I read these posts. I swear NO bride WANTS to have a long gap in between ceremony and reception! Sometimes we really don’t have a choice! 🙁
I REALLY tried my hardest to find a church/venue combo that would give the least amount of gap. I could have gone with another venue for the reception, but then the food/ambiance/location would have sucked and my guests would have hated me for having a reception with crappy food or no parking or was too far from the city or whatnot anyway
I just hope my guests will be fine going back to their hotel rooms or hanging out around downtown SF for a couple of hours. Or heck… please feel free to go ahead to the reception venue (which is only 20 minutes away from the church, and also has two spearate restaurants and a bar) and grab a couple of drinks beforehand.
I know I worry about it and it will probably be just fine, but with the ‘normal’ wedding expectations of a gap being one hour or less, I can’t help but think I’ll be cruxified by some guests for the torture.
Sigh.. sometimes it really is more fun to just be a guest than planning the actual wedding. 🙁