(Closed) Bridal Registry and FMIL

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A monetary shower?!? That is new to me and frankly, sounds extremely rude.

your FMIL needs to remember who’s wedding it is! Hang in there!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow! It would be offensive to many if you did have a monetary shower. I agree with your FI, try to shake it off. Sorry it is so hard to make everyone happy!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble

My family does both, gift wise. Usually a $25 gift, and $25 cash @ showers, and then a sum of money for the actual wedding. I’ve never heard of monetary showers, but at the same time, your FMIL is kinda dumb, b/c unless guests ASK, you(we) aren’t supposed to go run around saying “hey we’re registered @ psycho store, FMIL gets us a discount!” muahahaha! LOL OK, sorry!

well, let HER family do THEIR thing, let YOUR family do THEIR thing. It’ll all balance out, and she needs to realize, this is the joining of TWO(or, sometimes more) families. Not just HERS!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My mother would KILL me if I did a monetary shower. KILL! She already thinks the registry thing is rude (she’s old fashioned).

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think a monetary shower would be rude.  And also if she really wants his family there have her pay for their plates.  I have offended my FMIL several times but doing things that she doesnt like… but you just gotta remember this is your day. I am working very hard at remembering that through it all.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

I thin a monetary shower should always be a no go. It is a major turn off and makes people think all you want them for is their money. Plus if you think about it you are going to spend the money on things for your new home anyway why not just register and let people feel like they are contributing to your new life. 

You are under no obligation to invite anyone that you don’t want to. I think everyone has offended their FMIL at least once(in my case more times than that), but it is something they will get over. You and your FI are paying for the wedding and this is your special day! Enjoy it however you see fit!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you’re going to have a shower you should absolutely register for gifts, IMO. It’s pretty rude to just expect money!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Never even heard if a monetary shower. I think it’s just plain out rude to have a monetary shower. 

Post # 12
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Newbee

I agree with everyone else here! Never even heard of a monetary shower .. how the hell do you even tell people that on a bridal shower invitation? What is wrong with Mother of the Grooms seriously. I hear so many stories and am dealing with one myself and it just has my head spinning. I understand her thinking as young couples do need cash but I mean who doesn’t like to open some gifts?! Save the cash for the wedding gift!

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