Post # 1
I just got engaged but we are thinking of having a destination wedding. I was wondering if people that have a destination wedding still have a bridal shower. I was thinking probably not since I thought the general rule was don’t invite anybody to the shower that is not invited to the wedding and not that many people would come to the wedding.
I was also wondering if you registered anywhere with a destination wedding? We were thinking of doing a casual cook out when we got back. My parents thought we should still register somewhere because people will still want to get us gifts. I wasn’t planning to register anywhere because I don’t want to seem like a gift grubber.
Just looking for some thoughts. Haven’t eve started planning anything at all. We may still have a wedding here.
Post # 3
I would think they still have a shower. We want a destination wedding and I plan to have one because I’m still inviting everyone to the wedding, I just know they all won’t come.
Maybe if they don’t invite everyone, they probably don’t.
Post # 4
I say yes you need a registry. I buy gifts for my friends or co-workers that don’t invite me to the wedding. I think most people are aware of budgets or destinations that don’t allow for everyone to come.
I think having a shower is perfectly fine especially if it is for close friends and family. Those people would not judge you and if someone brought up throwing a shower for you then you are ok.
Post # 5
It is totally okay to register for gifts. Many people such as co-workers, acquaintances, and relatives, may still want to give gifts and registering allows them to choose something they know will be of use to you. Certainly, it’s the thought that counts, but when I’m selecting a gift for someone I like to know they will find use for it.
Post # 6
We’re having a DW, invited just over 120 people, expecting about 30 to come. I’m having a bridal shower, and I’m super excited about it.
There have been a lot of people who have asked us about weather or not we’re having some sort of at home party (which we’re not) so they were very excited to get to participate in some sort of wedding related festivities. People really want to be a part of the celebration even though they can’t come to the actual wedding.
We’re not inviting anyone to the shower who wasn’t invited to the wedding though.
Post # 7
We had a destination wedding and I had a bridal shower. We’re also having an at home reception. For the bridal shower, we invited people who were invited to the destination wedding (although most of these people were spread apart all over the country) and also some people who were invited to the at home reception. We put a note on the shower invite that we were having a small destination wedding but that we couldn’t wait to celebrate with everyone at our reception at home. I didn’t necessarily want the shower but my mom really wanted to throw one so I gave in. We registered at a number of different stores and no one thought it was odd.
Post # 8
I plan on only inviting our immediate families to the wedding if we do a destination wedding. I don’t know if any friends will be attending or aunts/uncles, I am not planning to invite them as the purpose it to have a smaller wedding…I don’t really want my wedding ceremony to have 150+ people looking at me.
If we had a shower it would probably only be the Aunts, cousins and close friends of mine to be invited. No work or distant/family friends would be invited. Since it would be a mostly family affair it might be acceptable, I’ll have to look around more. I would like to think my family would come regardless since they know the wedding is such private event and that there will be a celebration after (either casual cookout or possibly a more formal sit down dinner).