- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Hello I am new to this site. I hate to have my first post be a vent, but I am just so frustrated. My fiancé and I have been engaged for 2 1/2 years and we are getting married in October. From the beginning of our engagement I have said I don’t want a bridal shower. It’s just something I don’t like even going to for other people. Also we have been living together for almost 2 years now so we pretty much have everything we need. I know we could register to upgrade what we have but wdo hardly use what we have so I just canot understand the purpose of having a shower.
So on to the main point, my mom and my grandma have been on me about them throwing me a shower and I have repeatedly told them I appreciate the offer but I would rather not have a shower. Now my FMIL is asking about throwing me a shower and again I have told her what I have told my my mom and grandma, that I appreciate the offer but am not interested. She has gone on to ask what she is suppose to say socially why there was no shower when people ask and I told her to send them to me and I will explain to them my reasons why I didn’t want one. So it seemed like she finally understood.
Well yesterday my fiancé asks me if I can just let his mom throw me a shower, meaning she has gone behind my back to guilt trip him to guilt trip me into having a shower. Well of I let her give me a shower I have to let my mom and grandma throw me one as well and knowing all of their personalities they won’t want to do a collaborative one as they all have their own ideas, so I would end up with two when I didn’t even want one. This is all adding stress onto me when I already have enough stress as I am graduating college in may and then have 3 national board tests to pass so school is crazy right now and I am also working full time so I have a lot on my plate. I just don’t have the patience to deal with this right now especially since no one seems to listen to anything I have to say.
Sorry for the long ranting post,but I just needed to get this off my chest