Post # 1
What if some of the ladies from my church decide to throw me a bridal shower and I’ve got a long story beef with one of the ladies. I used to work the her husband, he was the boss of a factory, I worked in the office, well long story short he fired me. He yelled at me at like the top of his lungs in the middle of the shop where every body could see and clearly hear it. I did nothing wrong but I knew something that went on behind closed doors and he didn’t want me to spread the word so he got rid of me. Well ok his wife is in the wedding shower planning group at my church. He hasn’t looked or talked to me since he fired me…a whole year ago. I grew up with his kids and everything so it was really kind of weird for me to go through this. I really don’t want them at my wedding after he fired me so would it be rude to have her help plan my wedding shower and then not invite her to my wedding?
Post # 3
Are you inviting everyone else from the church shower to the wedding? I think a church or work shower are types of showers where it’s okay to have people there that aren’t invited to the wedding, but not just one person and invite everyone else. You didn’t ask her to plan the shower, and since they probably do this for lots of people they probably don’t expect a wedding invitation.
Post # 4
If you don’t want to invite then to the wedding then I would decline her offer to plan you a bridal shower. Everyone invovled in planning and present at the bridal shower should be invited to the wedding. It’s rude to have people at a gift giving event for you but not at the wedding.
If you want her involved, then extend the invitation. I personally, from the sound of the story, would probably decline her help.
Post # 5
If your Church bridal party is thrown by a commitee of women, I wouldn’t feel obligated to invite her specifically (but you also can’t invite all of them BUT her).