bridal shower?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@brooklyn_bee:  I’m sorry, that is difficult. I had a bridal shower without any family members present and it was actually beautiful and I felt very loved.

I think you should graciously accept the generosity and kindness of your FMIL to include you in such a loving way, and invite your family with the hopes they’ll come out. Why not have the shower as close to the wedding itself as possible? I would imagine doing so would increase the odds of your family attending both the shower *and* the wedding, yes? Make a weekend of it. Share your feelings with your FMIL and ask if she wouldn’t mind hosting it then for these reasons. Make the most of it.

 

Post # 4
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1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am sorry you feel that way. Can you have another one in the area where you are from with your family in friends as well? We had a bridal and baby shower with my husbands family out of state. I have become closer to them over the years so the baby shower was great but the bridal shower was a little more awkward. I think you should just be happy that his mother wants to throw the party for you.

Post # 5
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851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@brooklyn_bee:  So sorry! I had this exact situation, so I know how it feels:/ I know that throwing a bridal shower for me meant a lot to my FMIL so I let her do it, and I just did my best to enjoy it. I thought about saying no, but didn’t want to hurt her feelings. In the end, I’m soooo glad I made the decision that I made. 

Post # 6
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351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I know it is very personal but I think you will enjoy it. I think we all build up ideals of the wedding process but sometimes people don’t have showers or bachelorette parties or things work out differently than maybe you though. I thought I didn’t want a shower at all but it ending up being really nice and I felt so blessed and honored to have several people go out of their way to celebrate with me. 

Post # 7
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864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@brooklyn_bee:  that sucks. 🙁 I’m an eternal optimist, and my view of this is not that your family can’t come, but that you have so many people that AREN’T related to you by blood that love you enough to throw/attend a shower. That should make you feel pretty special my dear! 🙂 Congratulations on your engagement, and I hope you have a wonderful shower.

Post # 9
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1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@brooklyn_bee:  I understand and that is tough. Just try to think of the bright side. Lots of other women want to celebrate your wedding so that is great news!

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