Post # 1
My maid of honor and bridesmaids are planning a shower and bachelorette party for me before my wedding and asked when I was available to have them. I choose two different weekend prior to my wedding for each event. For my cousin’s wedding we did both in one day and it was one long and exhausting day. I would like to enjoy each without feeling exhausted. Now my maid of honor has decided to do it on one day because of her kids. I found out through one of my other bridesmaids who said the maid of honor decided this and said my idea was stupid to do it on two days. Normally showers I have gone to, there are usually kids that come to it.
Is it normal to have these events on two different days or for kids to come to the shower? Am I being outrageous?
Post # 3
Kids were at my shower. My fmil didn’t want kids, but in this family (fi’s) it’s almost impossible since there are so many kids. It was a blast. Kids had fun and even kept busy playing outside the hall in the park (hall is in the same locartion as the park).
Also, I thought it would be a good idea to do both shower and b-party on the same day to et it over with but my bm didn’t like that idea and pointed out a few reasons why it wouldn’t work so we”re having my b-party in a few weeks. My bridal shower was in September.
Post # 4
i had only 2 kids at my shower. they were my 2 cousins and they’re old enough that they enjoyed the shower (they’re 10 & 13), so keeping them entertained/well behaved wasn’t an issue. my husband has a ton of nieces/nephews, but i didn’t invite any of the little ones (except for our flower girl, but my sis in law chose not to bring her).
i didn’t have a bachelorette party, but if i’d had one, i wouldn’t have wanted it on the same day as my shower. i think it would have been too much. i think it’s more common to have them on different days, but not totally unheard of to have them on the same day.
Post # 5
Do you have people travelling for the shower/bachelorette? It makes it a lot easier on them if you have it on one day. I’ve always had to travel for 2 seperate events and while I do it happily, it would have been so much easier and cheaper to have them the same weekend.
That being said, I think you can express your preference, but the maid of honor is throwing the parties in your honor and she can choose when to have them. Not all bridal parties are willing to do that, so I would be grateful. If you really prefer to have them on a separate day, maybe find someone in your family willing to host a shower and leave the bachelorette to the maid of honor.
And most showers I’ve been to have included children.