Post # 1
Well, successfull weekend for this Bee! The future hubs and I had our his & her wedding shower hosted by members of our wedding party and I had my bachelorette party all in one day! It was also a 7 hour drive ( one wsy) for us so we are both EXHAUSTED and having the puppy with us made the trip a little longer than usual. So for the etiquette question….the shower was hosted by my newly married and pregnant friend and bridesmaid. However; it was totally paid for bymy granny becauseshe did not want a newlywed / mother to be footing the bill. Our shower was a little non traditional because we held it at a restaurant with a brunch menu, mimosas and a cake+ punch dessert. There were about 27 people in attendance and we all sat to eat first and then did gifts. Well– I have had wonderful feedback and gracious blessings… but one guest is very adamant to know WHO paid and HOW MUCH everything cost. I know the obvious answer is ” it is none of her business”, but I would like to tastefully address it because it is upsetting my Granny with this person asking people in the community/ church the ” behind the scenes” of the shower. My thought was to send her a quick email explaining the situation and asking her to just be hush hush…thoughts??? FI thinks I should be quiet
Post # 3
Why do they want to know? Did they want to host a similar event or are they just being nosey?
I would say that it was sponsored by your family and you have no clue what it cost… If they want a better idea perhaps they can call the restaurant and get a quote for a similar event… I’d leave it at that…
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Say with a very sweet smile, “I’m sorry, we don’t discuss our wedding-related costs with others.”
This guest can thank the hostesses, and that’s all she needs to be concerned about. Maybe she’s going to be hosting a shower soon, but in that case she can call the restaurant to get sample menus herself. Your grandmother was very generous, and seems to want to be anonymous, and she should be allowed that.
Post # 5
I am not sure if she is planning a shower, I doubt it since her kids are married and it is such a small town tgat a shower would be news to everyone already! She is going to lengths to figure this info out its a little cray cray!
Post # 6
That’s bizarre. I agree with it not being any of her business.
Post # 7
I just want to smooth over and hurt or weird feelings. We had such an AMAZING day, seriously it was 10,000x better than anything I imagined. To come off of that ” high” and have negative reactions or too inquisitive reactions is a bit disheartening. I think my granny is just pissed because this woman had 3 showers thrown for her daughter by my mom / grandma and she felt like the lady should have returned the gesture for us. I dont have a dog in the fight and everyone is friendly to me…so this is NOT about throwing a shower just to get one lol… I just hate for there to be strain on a friendship because of my shower! … I just wish she would either 1) just drop it or 2) if I could could up with or find a tasteful way to tell her that its upsetting some family members that the cost is being scrutinized by close friends……also- I dont think she was asking because she is planning one because her kids are married and also because it is such a tight knit community I would know if she were hosting one.