- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
Here’s the scoop….
My mother is throwing me a bridal shower in July (my wedding is in Oct) in my hometown which is about 45mins from my current town. I am also in my BF’s wedding at the end of July. Myself and the other BMs are throwing her shower which is in May, out of state (as well as the wedding and rehearsal dinner/activites). My Future Mother-In-Law wants to throw us a Jack n Jill about a month before the wedding.
I personally think I should only be having one or the other – not both. Nor do I personally have time to plan my wedding, do all my projects, help Boyfriend or Best Friend w/ her wedding and other events, or have time to organize a J&J. My Future Mother-In-Law is very frazzled with other things going on her life (he adult son and his two kids moved back in while he is going through his divorce). I know she doesn’t have the time to plan a J&J – although she would never admit it.
I feel like having both would be seen as greedy (even though I know lots of people who do it). She wants it because of lot of her husband’s and her friends would want to go to a J&J — but these are people she isn’t terribly close to and doesn’t want at the wedding.
How do I let her down gently? She’s very easy to talk to but I don’t want her to think that I don’t need her help or want anything from her – I am grateful for everything she does for us.