Post # 1
Honestly I have been in a crappy mood for 2 weeks now – I hope this doesnt continue but the stupidest smallest things are driving me insane (wedding related).
One of my bridesmaids asked if she can bring her boyfriend to the bridal shower – I figured ok maybe she doesnt know that these are usually girl/women only events and maybe she has been to a shower where there was a lot of guys there or something?
Regardless, I nicely responded saying “sorry, its just for girls/woman and FI isn’t even coming” – then she said “umm ok, well that’s kind of lame because I want my boyfriend to be there”
I was ready to flip at that point but I didn’t.. I’m sorry if you dont like the fact that its an all women thing? All I know is that throughout this wedding planning I’ve learned a lot about some people.. and well some of these people I probably won’t talk to as much after the wedding!
Post # 3
Why would she want her boyfriend there? How incredibly boring for him. She can’t spend one day without him?!
I am going to a bridal shower tomorrow where the only guy there will be the groom. I don’t get it, but whatever….
Post # 4
Just let him come… he will be uncomfortable and she will probably feel stupid since there are no other guys there!
Post # 5
STRANGE! My bridal shower is tomorrow and my FI isn’t going to be there either it’s a girls thing (nor does he want to be there LOL). Not sure why it matters to this girl there aren’t going to be any other guys there how uncomfortable would that be for him.
Post # 6
why would her boyfriend want to come to a bridal shower?
Post # 7
Why are people like this? I just don’t understand.
Post # 8
I think you should let him come too. Let him be super uncomfortable and bored. 😛
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Walnut Beach Resort
That is strange, one I think it’s rude to ask to bring somone who wasn’t invited, and two, why would HE want to go??
Post # 10
That is a first for me…
BTW you handled it nicely… and politely… you’d think she’d get the hint.
Obviously she hasn’t a clue what happens at a Bridal Shower… BF will be bored to tears !!
And ya, I so get this statement…
All I know is that throughout this wedding planning I’ve learned a lot about some people.. and well some of these people I probably won’t talk to as much after the wedding!
I was married the first time some 30+ Years ago, and sadly things haven’t changed much… some people are just “beyond dense / RUDE”.
The good news is I can tell you that after you are married life evolves, it becomes so much about the life that the two of you build, that there will indeed be people you’ll rarely ever see again… (or choose not to socialize with)… as you’ll be onto making your own life & memories, friends as a couple, etc.
Lol, I’m actually beginning to realize how LOW STRESS this my second Wedding is… no family to please (no high strung Mom)… just me and Hubby-2-B. We are Eloping to a Destination Wedding, and as it is our second, there are no BIG expectations… we can do as we please. There will probably be a Open House or Back-Home Reception when all is said & done, but it will be pretty casual… so no big worries in regard to a sit-down meal etc.
This time round… our Wedding will be ALL ABOUT US… our Vows said in private on the Beach, our Wedding Dinner overlooking the Ocean, and our wonderful Honeymoon. Makes getting married such a sweet thing to look forward to… no HUGE affair, and NO DRAMA !! Amen.
Post # 11
I feel your pain! I feel like im getting to know a lot more about people throughout this whole experiance and i dont like what im seeing. I will deff not be talking to some of them afterwards. im sorry your going through this… it really does put a damper on things!! just have to let it roll off your back and stick to your guns! your not alone though!
Post # 12
How old is this chick? Has she never been to a shower before? They aren’t usually that fun for anyone but the bride being showered and even then that’s not always the case! LOL! I say let her bring him and be entertained at how bored he is! LOL!
Post # 13
I like the idea of telling her that he can just come.. interesting, I’ll sit him with a bunch of old ladies too!!!! but then what if some people think he’s the groom? some of my family (aunts) havent seen him???
Post # 14
@mags2233: That’s hilarious! He must be the groom. .he’s the only guy here.
put him in charge of the games. He’ll love it!
Post # 15
@This Time Round: I’m jealous! I originally wanted to elope but let me tell you how much crap we got from our families for that. So we decided to just do it here without eloping. I’m also marrying into a gigantic family so our guest list consists of 525 people 🙁 🙁 🙁 only 150 people from my side of the family & friends the rest are from his side of the family and well I’ve head multiple conversations with the MONSTER in law about the fact that she needed to cut her list down or pay for her own guests and nope, she wont budge, so then I got mad and talked to FI and told him we needed to talk to his mother together about this because we cannot afford to pay for HER guests. Long story short – she said she’ll cover the cost of her guests (this was a few months ago) and now? a few months the save the dates have been out I find out that she might not be able to. Let’s just say she has money coming out of her butt.. so.. ya.. I want THIS TO BE OVERRRRRRR
Post # 16
Isn’t it weird how when you’re planning a wedding, people ask the dumbest questions?
I don’t understand it… either people really just don’t know any better or stupid questions stand out more then before.
Or do people only become rude when it comes to weddings? It really baffles me.
Anyway at first, when people asked me stupid questions I shot them down instantly but I realized its not very nice and have really focused on how to turn people down or answer their dumb questions nicely.
I also thinks its sad that I have to put EXTRA effort into not hurting someone’s feelings when they’re the ones asking rude questions…