bridal shower anxiety? worried about attendance

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know this isn’t the response you are looking for, but I feel like you might need some perspective: you are complaining that not enough people will be getting you presents.

Post # 4
3948 posts
Honey bee

I had about 12 people at mine. It was beautiful and perfect 🙂

Post # 6
3948 posts
Honey bee

@angthrice:  I understand feeling hurt. I had a few very good friends not come to my  shower. I didnt care about the presents at all, I just wanted to celebrate with them.

The ones that matter the most will be there, so just enjoy the day!

Post # 7
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@angthrice:  …enjoy the people that are there and forget about the rest….its quality you want to focus on, not quantity….60 people at a shower is insane!

Post # 8
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Is your wedding in March? It’s seems early for a shower since they usually happen 1-2 months before the wedding. I doubt that would be a reason for people not coming though. I’m sure you’ll have an amazing party regardless if there are 10 people or 60 people!

Post # 10
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

My MIL is only inviting around 20 and I figure half will be able to attend.  I am actually relieved because less people equals less stress for me.

Post # 11
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


It depends on the culture. In my family 60 people is perfectly normal. But typically we only have one shower. Other friends of different cultues have had 3-4 showers with around 15 at each.. so it all balances out. 

I had around 100 invited to my shower. I was nervous too! It turned out fine 🙂 I was nervous because my Aunties said to only respond if unable to attend, but I knew some people probably just wouldn’t bother.. and I didn’t want there to be a ton on empty seats as that is embarassing. 

Post # 13
1015 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Look on the bright side! Those that are there clearly really wanted to be there to share their love and support for you! Forget the rest and enjoy the day with your nearest and dearest :).

Post # 14
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@FutureMrsLAL:  +1

OP I’m sorry you’re feeling hurt, I get it. Try to focus on the people that will be there. But when you write “my registry is growing cobwebs” you sound gift grabby. You probably would have gotten a little more sympathy without that line.

Post # 15
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

yeah, 20 sounds like a nice number!

Post # 16
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m kind of worried about mine. My shower is 1 week before the wedding, so it’s next weekend. In the beginning my sister was telling me all the details like who was and wasn’t coming and why not. I think out of all the ladies invited only 1/3 are going so you can understand my feelings are a little hurt BUT… some of them have genuine excuses such as just had a knee operation, just had a sex change (serious) and just had a baby. And some of those people still plan to come but their situations leaves them undecided until the day of.


So I’m just deciding not to worry about it cos I can’t control attendance numbers and I’m sure it will be lovely even if only 6 people end up going!

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