Post # 1
ok so bees get this. my two maids of honor are throwing a great shower for me on sunday but I am getting concerned because out of 60 invites, i don’t think more than 20 are coming.
I don’t want to sound like a crazy person but people that i really thought would come are not. I’m really hurt and my registry is growing cobwebs.
I’m just having anxiety – ugh – i know this makes no sense.
anyone have this problem/issue?
Post # 3
I know this isn’t the response you are looking for, but I feel like you might need some perspective: you are complaining that not enough people will be getting you presents.
Post # 4
I had about 12 people at mine. It was beautiful and perfect 🙂
Post # 5
it’s really not about gifts – it’s about the turnout – i always go out of my way to reschedule things to get to friend’s showers – just feeling a bit hurt.
Post # 6
@angthrice: I understand feeling hurt. I had a few very good friends not come to my shower. I didnt care about the presents at all, I just wanted to celebrate with them.
The ones that matter the most will be there, so just enjoy the day!
Post # 7
@angthrice: …enjoy the people that are there and forget about the rest….its quality you want to focus on, not quantity….60 people at a shower is insane!
Post # 8
Is your wedding in March? It’s seems early for a shower since they usually happen 1-2 months before the wedding. I doubt that would be a reason for people not coming though. I’m sure you’ll have an amazing party regardless if there are 10 people or 60 people!
Post # 9
my wedding was originally dec 1 – but we had to push it to march a few months ago because of several huge issues – and since i didn’t have a hand in the planning i suggested to my maids of honor moving it to early january but they said the venue is outdoors so they had to keep it sept 15. so that’s why it’s so early.
i think it’s just a popular weekend – one of my bridesmaids can’t make it becuase her close cousin is having her baby shower the same day, same time.
i’m sure it will be a great time – i know they have worked really hard on it, just wanted to vent to others who are also getting married (since my single friends look at me crosseyed about this stuff). 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
My MIL is only inviting around 20 and I figure half will be able to attend. I am actually relieved because less people equals less stress for me.
Post # 11
It depends on the culture. In my family 60 people is perfectly normal. But typically we only have one shower. Other friends of different cultues have had 3-4 showers with around 15 at each.. so it all balances out.
I had around 100 invited to my shower. I was nervous too! It turned out fine 🙂 I was nervous because my Aunties said to only respond if unable to attend, but I knew some people probably just wouldn’t bother.. and I didn’t want there to be a ton on empty seats as that is embarassing.
Post # 12
yeah this is the only shower I’m having – i have a small family and my office is not a social one so this is the one and only shebang.
Post # 13
Look on the bright side! Those that are there clearly really wanted to be there to share their love and support for you! Forget the rest and enjoy the day with your nearest and dearest :).
Post # 14
OP I’m sorry you’re feeling hurt, I get it. Try to focus on the people that will be there. But when you write “my registry is growing cobwebs” you sound gift grabby. You probably would have gotten a little more sympathy without that line.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
yeah, 20 sounds like a nice number!
Post # 16
I’m kind of worried about mine. My shower is 1 week before the wedding, so it’s next weekend. In the beginning my sister was telling me all the details like who was and wasn’t coming and why not. I think out of all the ladies invited only 1/3 are going so you can understand my feelings are a little hurt BUT… some of them have genuine excuses such as just had a knee operation, just had a sex change (serious) and just had a baby. And some of those people still plan to come but their situations leaves them undecided until the day of.
So I’m just deciding not to worry about it cos I can’t control attendance numbers and I’m sure it will be lovely even if only 6 people end up going!