Post # 1
So, my wedding is in Hawaii, but I live in Denver. The only women I’m close to here are my cousin, my fmil, and fsil. My cousin is the moh and is so excited to plan the shower and bachelorette party. She keeps asking me for my list. and right now it’s only 3 people (moh, fmil, fsil). The only close friends I have here are guys. My coworkers are guys, college friends are guys, friends of friends are guys. All the girlfriends I’ve made here have moved out of state. And being out of school, it’s hard to make friends. I could ask the one groomsmen’s spouse. That would make it 4. I have some friends from college that I haven’t talked to in years and only stay in contact through facebook, but still hardly message each other and I feel a little uncomfortable inviting them. Especially since they’re not invited to the wedding.
Most of my close friends are in Hawaii. But I don’t think I’ll have enough time before the wedding to have it there.
Will this be the saddest party or what? =(
Post # 3
Well this is perfect if you ask me. Do an entire huge spa day! Way better than sitting on display and pretending to be a lady 😉 Then when you get to hawaii you can have a great bachlorette party!
Post # 4
All my close friends are guys too… My bachlorette partys going to be me getting drunk by myself =(
Post # 5
@HappilyEverAfter54: & @campbali: I had a bridesman and he helped to throw my shower. He’s straight too. No one said it can’t be co-ed
Post # 6
@mwitter80: mine might have to be… or else I truely will be alone
Post # 7
Sometimes circumstances make social events difficult. Rather than have a small shower or bachelorette, the memory of which may make you sad for years to come, why not use the occasion to help someone else have a great day.
Is there a Women’s Shelter that you could contact? take some of the women out for a great lunch or dinner? take them shopping for back to school clothes for their kids?
Sometimes when we focus on others we feel so much better ourselves.
Rather than remember the “saddest party ever” you would have wonderful memories of the smiles on their faces.
Post # 8
My female friends (including bridesmaid, MOH) live out of state- I went to college far away from where I live now. So my bachelorette party will be with my mom, my sister-in-law, and maybe some of my mom’s friends who have known me forever. It’s not a traditional bachelorette party, obviously, so we’ll probably end up just going to the casino and having a good time. Nothing wrong with that in my opinion!
Post # 9
Have a super intimate bachelorette and a couples shower/jack n jill?
Post # 10
@campbali: I have the same exact problem with having no one to invite! I have only 2 close female friends and the three of us would be an option for a sad little party but now I can’t even do that because my best friend hooked up with my other best friends ex recently and now there is no way I could bring them both out together. There is my fiance’s sister but she HATES me and is still very close with his ex. So I either have to pick which friend to hang out with or not do it at all. And how sad is a 2 person bachelorette party. I considered the coed jack and jill party at first to thicken it up a little. But the only friend my fiance has is the ex of my one friend who is the ex hook up of the other friend. I so wanted to have a night where I felt special like other people who get married have. We’re eloping for the very fact that I have no one to invite on my side, but I look at other peoples pictures of bridal showers and bachelorette parties and stuff and I feel so depressed.
Post # 11
@HappilyEverAfter54: Same for me 🙁 A one woman party coming up! Blah!!
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I have a tiny circle of friends and there were only about 15 (including family!) at my shower. It’ll be even fewer at my Hen’s, if I have one. =/
Post # 13
@campbali: I live in fort collins!!! I’m in the same boat as you, although I’m not getting married in Hawaii…lol… it is super hard, I’m 26 and it seems like everyone my age either has a close group of friends or is very standoffish towards other women.. so frustrating!!! …… we can have our own colorado party!!!!
Post # 14
@kcoconut: Im 25, and completely agree with you on a lot of women being standoffish towards other women. I’ve lived in Dallas a couple of years now and not really made any friends. But the majority of the ladies here are also a little to into looks/$/materialism. Its definitely harder to make friends once you are out of college!
Post # 15
@campbali: Don’t feel bad at all, as long as you have people that you care about attend you will have a blast. I recently had my bachelorette/bridal shower weekend and in attendance was myself, my Matron of Honor, one of my 5 bridesmaids and my mother. No one else was able to attend, but I really had a blast. I didn’t even think about the small amount of people who came out, I just felt so blessed that the people who came were there!
Post # 16
Maybe instead of a bachelorette party, do a bachelorette dinner and a bachelor dinner (separately) and then join parties and both you and your FI could invite all of your friends, including the guy friends you are close with!