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    MrsT2Bee    June 12, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    So I was trying not to let this bother me... but I just need to get it off my chest.

    So my MOH and I sat down a couple of months ago to come up with some ideas for my bridal shower, we set a date that worked for all the BMs, and I told her, don't worry about anything right now, but invites will have to go out in March (the shower is Apr. 25th). Well I realized last week that March has come and gone, and nothing had been done. I know my MOH has been drowning in school work - it's essay time and exams start in a week.... no biggie, but invites have to go out asap, so we hooked up this week to confirm theme, time, etc., and I quickly typed up some invites and started handing them out today. I had e-mailed my mom and asked her if she could take over, since my MOH needs to focus on graduating. Well apparently she's too busy with work, and told me to talk to my Grandma. Seriously?? ...my own mother is too busy to help plan her daughters bridal shower. Thanks. And frankly I'm kinda pissed because after talking to my sister today, she said she contacted my MOH several times saying "if you need me to do anything, let me know". But MOH couldn't take 2 minutes to shoot off an e-mail that says "Sorry, I'm drowning in school work, can you take over?" And thus, I have to take control in the planning process of my own effing bridal shower. How depressing. Even FI asked me today if he could help, because he is upset with the way I am being treated by my own family and bridal party. I didn't even want a bridal shower and my MOH convinced me I HAD to have one because their "so much fun!" Well I wouldn't even be having one, if I wasn't the one who took initiative to make sure things are being done. UGH... Anyways, sorry for the vent. At least I have you bees!

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    Can your sister help with stuff now? 

    That's really tough :( I'm sure no one was intentionally trying to let it fall through the cracks though - life gets crazy at times, especially spring semester for those still in school (I'm about to rip my head off, haha, so I can personally attest to that!)

     
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    MrsT2Bee    June 12, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    Yes my amazing sister is taking over and is a newlywed so she knows how it all works and how important all these "Bride" experiences are.

    And I'm not mad because my MOH didn't do anything for the shower - she was the one who apologized to me and I told her to shut up and focus on school lol. I'm just annoyed that she ignored all my sisters attempts to get things rolling, and couldn't just swallow her pride and admit that she was over whelmed.

     
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    vintage2010    April 10, 2010  

    You know my advice is to tell your sister and MOH to take care of things and that you want them to be a surprise and to not talk to you about the planning. Because honestly the more you know the more you'll be upset that things aren't getting done or this person wants to do this or that.  I just experienced this and it bummed me out because I knew everything about my shower nothing was left a surprise. I also knew who was mad at each other because they did or didn't do their part.  But you know what, when it was all said and done I had two beautiful showers that couldn't have been nicer.  So save yourself any more stress!

     

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