(Closed) Bridal Shower Conundrum

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Would you invite a person to a bridal shower if that family member was not invited to the wedding?
    Yes, because they asked to be invited while knowing their wedding invite status : (10 votes)
    56 %
    No, because bridal shower invites can only be sent to wedding guests. Period. : (8 votes)
    44 %
    Other, please explain : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I had the same issue. The deciding factor was when a friend said, “I don’t care if I’m not invited, I’m going to give you a present anyway!” They wanted to come and I had no real reason why they shouldn’t. The bridal shower was my way of thanking them with food/fun for the presents they were getting me anyway.

    Post # 3
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    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Invite them! I’m inviting people to my bridal shower that are not invited to my wedding.  I think as long as they KNOW (without a shadow of a doubt) that they are not invited to the wedding, it’s okay to invite them.  I can’t invite everybody because of our budget but my friends/family totally understand that and just want to celebrate the occasion with me anyway they can.

    Post # 4
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    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I know that’s the rule, but…I have started to wonder recently in situations like this, since the invitation won’t be (or shouldn’t be) officially coming from YOU, then why does it matter who is invited? If someone like your  mom is officially throwing you a party, then can’t SHE invite whoever she wants?

    (I voted yes)

    Post # 5
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    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think as long as they all know they unfortunately cannot be invited to the wedding, its fine to invite them to the shower.  Good luck!

    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    They already know they are not invited to the wedding and want to share in the celebration of your marriage at the shower, so have your MOH invite them.

    Post # 7
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    929 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think in your situation, it is alright, and appropriate to invite these guests. In most cases, I totally disagree with the decision to invite someone to the shower, and not the wedding.

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