Bridal Shower Crasher?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 Are all of the women invited to the wedding? If not, no one should be invited to the shower who isn’t also invited to the wedding, so that might be an easy way to fix the problem.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@orangeroses29:  Woulld you be able to give the people in your post fake names? I can not understand it.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If MOH’s mom’s friend isn’t invited to your wedding, then she has NO business being invited to your shower. You probably should have not put that on your mom, and just have told her no, she couldn’t come.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

These are all adults and they need to suck it up. Your mom needs to tell her friend that this isn’t about her, and that she needs to attend and be civil.

I had a huge falling out with someone in my DH’s family (who is like a second dad to him) a few months before our wedding. I’m talking so huge that it was really bad and to this day we still don’t talk. He’s an important part of my DH’s life and therefor I suck it up and I’m civil to him for family events. They can certainly do the same for you.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ok, but it is still in bad form to invite someone to your shower that is not invited to your wedding, so that’s a place to fall back on if you need a reason.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d tell her you’d feel uncomfortable with someone not attending the wedding attending your shower.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@orangeroses29:  OK I see. It’s pretty clear to me that “Sandy” shouldn’t be invited to the shower. Someone – your mother or you – needs to tell Jill that it isn’t appropriate for Sandy to be invited. Probably you, since your mother has already failed to do so. Unfortunately you might need to spell out to Jill that this is because of Sandy’s past history of fighting Mary.

It sounds to me like Sandy is trying to cause trouble.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If Sandy’s not invited to the wedding, she has no business being at your shower. The end. :)-

 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

Whilst I agree that people that are not invited to the wedding should not be invited to the shower it is ultimately up to the host of the party, Jill, who she wants to invite into her home and to her party.

Mary should suck it up and stop acting like a child. Refusing to come to a party becuase Sandy is there is a bit immature.

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