Post # 1
I found out this weekend from my FMIL that my FIs two sisters, neither of whom are in the wedding, are intending to throw me a bridal shower. Now, this would all be great, except that I know my sister, who is also my MOH, is also intending to throw me a shower. None of these people live anywhere near me. My sister is in Nebraska, and my FSILs are both in southern Missouri, and I am in northern Illinois. I have friends and family all over a 4 state region, so no matter where the shower is, there are going to be several people who are going to have to travel several hours to get there. I would be ok with having two showers but I can’t afford to be travelling to much before the wedding. I also I think my sister will be upset if she knows that someone else is throwing me a shower. I feel like I should put the kabosh on one of these showers, but I don’t know which one. My FIs sisters have been a little reserved towards me since the beginning, and I feel like their offering to throw me a shower is definatly a warming up towards me and I don’t want to hamper that. On the other hand, I know my sister has been wanting to do this since before I got engaged, and since my mother passed away years ago, I feel like she takes her duty as big sister very seriously and I know it would mean a lot to her. Any ideas?
Post # 3
What about if your sister throws a shower for you from your family & friends, and the FSILs throw a shower for you from their family and his friends? It would be split up so that each family member/group gets to do what they want-since not everyone is in the same place anyway? BTW, My daughter had a baby shower from 3,000 miles away. I think one of my SILs opened the gifts for her, and my brother’s family videographed it, they sent my daughter the video and a journal type book with who was there, what gift they gave, and then some pages were “autographed” with best wishes from the guests. 🙂
Post # 4
@SandyThePoet: Any way they could all be in on the planning? Maybe explain to your FI’s sisters how important this is to your sister, and they could all work together to throw you a shower? And you could also explain to your sister how important it is to you that your FSIL’s are reaching out to you, maybe that would make her more willing to throw a joint shower.
That’s a toughie really. Especially since more than one shower will cause you to have more travel expense… Extra funds and free time is hard to come by when planning a wedding.
Post # 5
@creativeplannertobee: I agree with this. Your sister throws it for your side of the family/some friends, FSIL for his side of the family/ some friends.
Post # 6
Lots of my friends had multiple showers. Usually from each side of the family. but I totally get not being able to afford to travel before the wedding, my guess is though that you will make up for that cost in gifts … though I know that isnt your concern here! I don’t think Im having any showers thrown for me ( i have 2 sisters and 2 FSIL!) so please have two showers!:)