Post # 1
I am new to this whole wedding thing so I will asking many questions about the subject in the future ladiesl ol. So anyways, my boyfriend is a groomsmen in his friends wedding and although I am not very close to the bride to be I have become friendly with her and we have a good time everytime we all go out. Anyways, I was invited to her bridal shower but I will be out of town with my boyfriend at the time.
Couple of questions…. I want to get her a gift anyways since I believe it would be proper etiquette especially since my boyfriend is in the wedding party.
So 1. for the relationship I have with her what would be an appropriate amount of money to spend on her gift? She has a registry but it ranges from $5 – over $150. Also, since I will not be present and I am short on time getting ready for this trip (also the store she registered at is not located near me and I would have to order online) and I will not be in his town (he lives 2 hours away) until about 2 weeks after the bridal shower. so question 2. is it ok for me to give her the present a couple weeks late but in person or should I rush the delivery for this gift and give it to his friend who will be attending the bridal shower to give to the bride?
I look forward to your feedback ladies. I am completely lost when it comes to these things !
Post # 3
How much are the two of you spending on their wedding gift? I’d make the shower gift 1/4 or 1/3 of that. But I’ve never been to a shower so I could be completely off base here.
Post # 4
It really depends on how much you feel comfortable spending! It’s good she has a range of price options available, so hopefully you’ll be able to find something for an amount you’re comfortable gifting.
Is it possible to order it online and have it delivered directly to her? It may still be late, but I’m sure if you explain the situation, she should be accommodating (who complains about when their presents arrive, anyway?)
Post # 5
@weddingguest101: For a friend-but-not-best-friend, I usually spend around $30-50 for a shower gift.
If her registry is online, they will have her shipping address. Order it and have it shipped directly to her. Easy!
Post # 6
The problem with having it delivered directly to her is that it is a surprise bridal shower so I don’t want to risk it arriving before the actual shower.
Post # 7
@weddingguest101: Ooohhhh, I see. Check the websites shipping timelines and order it so that it arrives a day or two later. In my opinion, a couple weeks later is kinda too late. For the wedding, it might be ok, but for a shower, I wouldn’t push it that late unless it’s a financial thing (like, payday is a couple weeks later or something).
Post # 8
Maybe see if you can have it delivered to the host of the bridal shower, rather than the actual bride? Or even just to the home of one of the bridesmaids or bride’s family/friends that you know will be attending. That way the bride won’t see it, and you can still get it there on time
Post # 9
I would probably buy something off the registry and just have UPS deliver it to the address provided by the couple when they registered. I probably wouldn’t go out of my way to get it to her by the shower because I’m not so close to her. Like if it comes early or later, you can still write on the card “Happy Bridal Shower” so she knows you meant it as a bridal shower gift.
ETA: I would say maybe $30 – $40? I feel like that’s a nice amount that makes it look like you care, but you’re obviously not really close enough. My range may be off, but to me $30 or $40 isn’t cheap, but it isn’t really expensive either.
I just saw that the OP updated that it’s a surprise shower. Is there a way to figure out the shipping estimate at checkout? Maybe order a couple days later than you were planning so it will get to her a few days after the shower. I don’t think it’s such a big deal for the gift to arrive a few days after the shower.
Post # 10
@weddingguest101: I think it’s lovely that you want to give her a gift. I think something in the $25-$40 price range would be good, and it’s totally acceptable to have it shipped to her, or to give it to her a few weeks late. She’ll appreciate the gesture!