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Currently, the plan is to invite a couple of my HS friends that I've haven't really stayed in touch with, and my mom's old co-workers/neighbor friends that she speaks with through X-mas letters and FB that AREN'T invited (along with the family members that ARE invited).
Taboo?
Thanks JenniB - that's kind of what I was thinking. My mom thought it might be okay, since all the folks are out of state (which is where the shower is being held). I feel bad, because I think she wants to see these ladies, and we never make it out that way, but I don't think this is the venue to do it at.
Typically it's bad for form to invite someone to a shower and not the wedding. Personally, I would be hurt if I was invited to a shower but not a wedding. Since you are driving all that way I'd suggest getting together with non-wedding invitees after the shower or the next day to see them!
Goldilocks- I guess I am a little late on this issue! However, it is a topic that is current to what I am going through. I am in the exact situation you are (were?) in - except I need to take a plane from my current city to my 'hometown' for the shower my MOH is putting together. We are having a Jack and Jill couples shower. I am planning on inviting my old HS friends and college friends who I don't speak to on a regular basis, but as impacted my life one time or another. Because our wedding is a small destination wedding, and is informal (no reception, no church, and a short ceremony on the beach), I didn't invite all of my friends to the wedding. However, I am inviting them to this informal shower at the park with BBQ. It gives me a chance to celebrate our union with my friends that I don't get to see very often. I think it is fine, especially in our current economy, to invite people to a shower that they are more likely to go to (b/c of proximity) and to make them feel like they are still important member of our lives. You don't even need to call it a 'shower' if you aren't having gifts.
This is a tough one - do you think these ladies are sad that they didn't get an invitation? I'm assuming they wouldn't go anyway, b/c of the distance and not necessarily being close with you. Normally i'd say no, but carefully crafted (aka, not a "shower") I think you could get away with having a party to see them. Could your aunt say something like "my lovely niece from Far Away City will be in town for a visit this weekend - please join us for a casual brunch to celebrate her engagement and to catch up with old friends!"
@Melissa: I love that wording! "Catch up with old friends." I might just use it! Thanks!
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Long story short, I'm driving 4-5 hours for one of the showers being thrown by my aunts. They've asked for a list of people to invite, and my mom would like to include some of her long-time friends that I wasn't able to include in our wedding invite list (budget, size, you know).
So, my question is: since my mom and I are the ones traveling, is it okay to invite her friends that aren't invited to the wedding? She'd like to see them while we're in town for a day. Or is that still poor form?
Thanks much!