Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids has offered to have a shower for me this summer. She asked me for a guest list and I don’t want to do the wrong thing.
I decided to get married at the ripe old age of 19. My family had a shower for me then. I am getting married for the second time this fall. 11 years has passed since then. I now live several states away from my family. Do I still put my aunts and grandmother on the list? Will it hurt their feelings if I don’t, or offend them if I do. I’m sure none of them will be making the trip for a shower as several of them are coming to the wedding. I have other out of state people that are getting an invite, but they were not around 11 years ago.
What do you think?
Post # 2
- Wedding: July 2014 - saint patricks parish
I’d invite them anyway if they don’t show up its up to them no hard feelings right?
Post # 4
I think you should invite them. If they choose not to come, then that’s their decision. However if you don’t invite them, it could hurt their feelings. 11 yrs is a long time ago, and you are starting a new life with a new partner. I’m sure they would want to celebrate this with you (if they are able to go).
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lubeznik Center for the Arts
I would invite them, but not get upset if they don’t come, seeing as it’s a second wedding. You might also consider calling it a bridal “sprinkle” and coming up with a lighter option for gifts (a theme, a white elephant, something like that). I know if you were my cousin/neice/friend I would want to come to the second shower, even if you were married before as a young one.
Post # 6
partyplanner83: I agree with what PPs have said. I would invite them, even if you are not expecting them to come. This way, at least they will know you thought of them and they can feel included in your excitement and happy time.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone. I don’t expect anything from them, but I don’t want to hear about the “Well, I WASN’T invited” thing either.