Post # 1
My Future Mother-In-Law just emailed and asked if I was having a bridal shower and if not, if I would like her and her friend to throw me one.
I don’t really understand bridal showers. Like what do you do at the shower? Who gets invited?
I’m inviting quite a bit of people for myself to the wedding but about 80% of my guests are from out of state and I don’t think they will really want to travel two times.
Also do you invite men and women or just women?
Post # 3
Typically, bridal showers are hosted by the bride’s Maid/Matron of Honor or another female relative. In recent times, it’s become acceptable for the bride’s mother to host as well (though I think way back when that would have been frowned upon, but times are a-changing!).
Bridal showers are for showering the bride with gifts to prepare her for married life. People invited to the shower should also be invited to the wedding (same goes for all pre-wedding parties & events). Sometimes people play games. My girlfriends asked MrDane a bunch of questions…like what’s his favorite animal, what was his first car, first job, what do I do that drives him nuts, what does he think my best feature is…etc. I had to guess what his answer was. It was hilarious and very entertaining!
Traditionally, showers are for women only, but again, times are changing and some people opt for a couple’s shower with men and women. We talked about doing this, but judging by the look I got from Darling Husband we decided against it (it seemed like he would rather have been hanging with the guys watching a game instead).
If I were you, I’d graciously accept her offer, ask her approximately how many guests she would like to host, and provide her with a guest list within that limit (your mom, sister, bridal party, etc).
Post # 5
Thank you ladies! I’m sending her an email back and wrote this:
Thank you for the offer, it’s really nice of you to offer to throw a bridal shower. I don’t know much about bridal showers though, well nothing really lol. I didn’t really consider having one since I don’t really know how they work. It would be nice if you and
would throw the shower. Just let me know what to do since I don’t really know. And thank you for the offer, I really appreciate it 🙂
Sound alright? I’m always worried about putting my foot in my mouth when I talk to my future in laws. I really like and respect them so I get nervous around them hoping not to give a bad impression.
Post # 6
@pinkgreenandyellow: You shouldn’t have to DO anything… You’re the bride! You just show up and look pretty! Hahaha, sounds good, and if you’re open and honest with them about not really knowing the ins & outs of bridal showers, she will probably fill you in, and since so many things etiquette-wise are dictated by region & culture, she’ll make sure you don’t commit any faux pas 🙂
Post # 7
@DaneLady: lol I hope so. I’m not socially awkward for my generation but when you put me in a group of women a bit older, I tend to make a fool of myself quite a bit. Hope I don’t do that at this shower, especially if all the attention is going to be on me, that’s when I get all uncomfortable and make jokes that no one understands (I have a dry sense of humor) We’ll see how this goes