Bridal shower even if having destination wedding??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Bridal Shower for Destination Brides?!?
    Yes, have a bridal shower! : (13 votes)
    59 %
    No, that'd be RUDE!! : (9 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @futuremrsmw:  I don’t think it’s rude. If a friend of mine was having a DW and I couldn’t make it, I would love to celebrate with her at a bridal shower. As long as you only invite people who are also invited to the wedding, then I think you are golden.

    Post # 4
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    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It’s not rude but should still only invite people invited to the destination wedding

    Post # 5
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    42460 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

     The bride doesn’t have a shower. Someone else hosts the shower. Normally that is someone outside the immediate family, but I have seen Bees post that their mother or sister hosted the shower.

    If someone offers to host a shower, by all means accept.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If someone offers to throw you a shower I see no need to turn one down.

    Post # 8
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    The shower would be a nice way for people, that cannot afford to come to your destination wedding, to celebrate with you.

    I’ve always konwn it to be normal to invite some people to the shower who might not be invited to the wedding.  Coworkers, for example.  Or, if you are having a very small wedding, it is, again, a way to include people that cannot be invited.

    As someone else throws the shower, you do not need to worry about the contradiction of invitng someone to the shower, but not the wedding, since you are not, ultimately, responsible for the shower’s guest list.

    Post # 9
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    5192 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I felt the same because I was having a DW, but I think the shower gave people a chance to participate in some way when they weren’d able to come to the wedding (they were invited, they just chose not to come). 

    If your friend and family are pushing for it, I say go for it.

    Post # 10
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    1136 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @futuremrsmw:  I don’t think it’s rude at all! If you are concerned that people are already spending a bit of money to attend the wedding, stress that you really don’t want gifts, you just want the chance to catch up with your girlfriends before the big day! (and you can totally keep it low key if you’d prefer!) But don’t skip it if you want to have one, no one will think you’re rude!

    Post # 11
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    1136 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @julies1949:  Depends where you’re from, where I’m from it’s far more common for brides to organise their own shower – I don’t think the traditional rules of hosting apply so much anymore!

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    The only people invited to a shower should also be those that are invited to the wedding. As long as you do that, there shouldn’t be any problem.

    Post # 13
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    2535 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    As long as anyone invited to the shower is invited to the wedding!

    I had a shower in my home town ( only 3 hours away from the wedding) but none of the women who attended that shower made it to the wedding. So it was nice to celebrate with them anyway.

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