Post # 1
My FMIL is insisting on throwing me a Bridal shower for only her side of the family. I have told her countless times that i only want ONE shower and i want all of my family, his family, and friends there at one time. My Bridesmaids have already talked about throwing me a shower.. havent made definite plans, but said they want to, and i feel etiquette wise, its more appropriate to have my bridesmaids throw the shower.. but i worry that they’ll flake and i’ll have turned down my only chance for a shower… =
what do i do?
Post # 3
Just have two! I know you only want one, but maybe you can look at it as “Wow, my FMIL wants to throw me a party! How nice!” Even if it is a controlling, weird move on her part (IDK if it is or not, just speculating).
Post # 4
I would just have two. I would like to just have one and have everyone together as well. But its only one day.
Post # 5
well.. this is my second wedding and my first shower was just my grandma, aunts and our moms. I couldnt even invite my bridesmaids.. so this time because second time brides “arent supposed to get bridal showers” (ridiculous) she’s throwing this one because she “wants FH’s side to get something their way”
i think thats why i want to be a turd and make it hard for her… so maybe i’m in the wrong here. i dunno.. or it could be the fact that i dont really want to sit thru a shower with people i dont know (who arent invited to the wedding no matter how much she asks) while they give me gifts i didnt register for and dont need. (we registered for our honeymoon and thats it. i have asked my MOH if i could have a lingerie luncheon instead of a shower because i really only need the new undies!)