Post # 1
It’s kind of a sticky situation, but here we go…
My FH does not like a lot of his family and didn’t invite them to the wedding.
My FMIL is thinking about throwing us a separate bridal shower and inviting these people–purely for the gift factor. She said that she always goes to their celebrations (graduations, baby showers, etc.) and is tired of giving to them all of the time when they never give back.
I really don’t know what to do about it. I’ve never met these people, but from what I understand I wouldn’t want them at the wedding either–sounds like it would be nothing but problems! I haven’t said anything to her because I don’t know what to do. FH doesn’t know what to say or do either.
Post # 3
Leave it in the fmil’s hands. She is throwing the shower. Of course, etiquette says they should be invited to the wedding but frankly if she hosts the shower and invites the guests I don’t think you are responsible.
Post # 4
If your fmil is throwing you a shower you don’t have to worry about the ettiquette of it. You never asked for it and she is hosting it. I would ask her to make sure those that are invited to the shower and not the wedding know that it doesn’t mean they missed their wedding invites or something. Just that she is throwing you a shower despite the fact that you are having a smaller wedding guest list. Some people may not buy you gifts and some may not show, but some will go because family will be there and they want to go. It may customary in grooms family.