Post # 1
So a couple days ago, I was speaking to one of my bridesmaids and best friends – and she was telling me how she was SO excited to get me a XXX rated gift for my bridal shower. I know thats sometimes how they go – but they dont HAVE to right!? I wouldnt feel comfortable with stuff like that in front of my mom and other older relatives! I told her this, but shes like determined and wont listen to me. Any ideas about how to get her to back off on this? haha
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Tell the host to let people know it’s a kitchen shower (or something like that). I would HATE if anyone bought me something…personal… to open in front of my relatives! Or worse, HIS relatives!
Post # 4
That’s a bachelorette party gift!
Post # 5
I agree I would ask the host to title the shower as a Kitchen shower or something else. Then let your friend know to bring that other gift to the bach party if she is SOOO wanting to give you that
Post # 6
The relatives might find it more amusing than you think, you never know. I was told the gift FI’s aunt got me made HIM blush! I don’t know what it is yet and I’m really curious to find out at the shower.
Post # 7
how x rated is it? my fi’s mom bought me lingerie… so you never know what some relatives will think! i would ask her to bring it to the bachelorette party.
Post # 8
Tell her to bring it to the bachelorette party and that your shower is G-rated!
Post # 9
haha good ideas! thanks guys! i know the relatives might think its funny, but it would make me uncomfortable, im kind of a prude haha. 😛
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Marie Gabrielle
Oh whoops, usually the host lets ladies know what kind of shower it is! I’ve been to a bunch of different kinds, and I’d be totally embarassed if I brought sex-ay lingerie to a housewares shower!
Post # 11
I’d tell her that’s kind of what your bachelorette is for–that it would offend your other guests, and kindly ask her not to for their sakes!
Post # 12
@snapdragon – I’ve been that guest! And yeah, it was insanely embarassing. My friend was getting married in Maui and then coming home to have a backyard reception about a month later. Having never been in anyone’s wedding or being to many showers, period – I had absolutely no idea what to bring/not to bring. And? I didn’t even know she was registered anywhere. (Can you tell I’m not her ‘close’ friend?!)
So there I was, watching her open box after box of kitchen supplies and then opening my gift – the “Cosmopolitan Kama Sutra” gift book. YOWSA!
So to answer the question above, I would politely tell her not to bring anything riske and ask her to be SURE to be very clear about the shwoer to the invitees!
Post # 13
Oh man. Yeah, that would be awkward. Ask her to save that for the bachelorette party. Grandma doesn’t want to see that.
Post # 14
My FIL’s would find hilarious, but they’re, um. Different! lol. Definitly tell her to bring it to the bachelorette party and have your hostess spread the word that it’s going to be pretty PG.
Post # 15
It’s bound to happen! One of my first shower’s I ever went to I brought my friend a nighty, nothing too racy, but it definitely was a highlight among all the kitchen and house wears gifts. And it seems like every shower I’ve been at since always has that one friend that brings something racy. Anything other than lingerie should definitely be a bachelorette gift. At least this way you know to prepare yourself when you open her gift!
Post # 16
I agree with above and she should bring it to the bach, party. My friend has that happen and was mortified to open her new “toy” in front of her mom and grandma…along with the male organ cake they made her. She did not enjoy it at all and was very uncomfortable.