Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
Here’s the deal: we’re strapped for cash, and trying to still enjoy things. We desperately want to go to Disneyland in January. We are going to move after the wedding, which means moving expenses and deposits, and I will have to get a new job when we go, so I’ll be unemployed for a time. FI can telecommute.
FI’s cousin is having a bridal shower next month and a wedding in May. She’s moving to Boston in January, but all her friends are here so she’s doing the shower now. The wedding will be here, in California.
If I’m invited to the shower and the wedding, should we get gifts for both? I really like this cousin, but we can’t spend a lot.
Post # 2
MrsYellowDaffodil: I would give a gift on both occasions. The shower gift need not be expensive. Some nice tea towels are a perfectly adequate gift. Or make a basket type gift following a theme: Italian night with pasta, sauce and red wine; breakfast in bed with a breakfast tray, pancake mix and maple syrup etc.
You have until next May to save for a wedding gift (or up to a year following the wedding).
Post # 4
I think you should get gifts for both, but they can be thoughtful gifts, not pricy! One of the best gifts I recieved from our shower was from my aunt who gave me a set of her old vintage cookbooks.
I agree with the above ‘basket’ idea, maybe a moving themed one? Are they driving across country? Maybe supplies/snacks for a long drive? Or I’ve seen a ‘honeymoon’ basket with supplies for a honeymoon: magazine/books, suntan lotion, flip flops. For the wedding, can you go in on a gift with another relative?
Post # 5
MrsYellowDaffodil: Spend only what you feel comfortable with. If you attend the shower you have to bring a gift, so if you can’t afford both then just give a card at the wedding. Personally I’d ditch the shower (not really important) and give a wedding gift.
Post # 6
MrsYellowDaffodil: Give what you can afford. People usually include lower priced items on their registry, so go for one of those. When I was a struggling college student I went straight to the under $20 category for my friend’s showers. If you are really strapped for cash, a thoughtful card is always appreciated if you can’t afford a gift