Post # 1
Im getting married next year and I personally dont want a bridal shower for several different reasons but thats neither here nor there… just a little background about me anytime I give someone a gift weather its a wedding, birthday, Christening whatever… if I dont know specfically what they want I either write a check, give cash, savings bond( for Christenings) or get a gift card to a store I know they frequent… and when I receive gifts I would prefer any of the above opposed to receiving (or giving) something someone doesnt want… its a waste of time and energy in my opinion hence the reason why gift cards were invented
Anyhow tomorrow I have a bridal shower to attend for a girl who I consider to be a “work friend” you know someone you speak to 9-5 Monday – Friday ONLY. Now she doesnt have a registry and to me that makes me think cash but since its not the wedding I was going to opt for a $50 American Express gift card (I got this beautiful bridal shower card for Hallmark to put it in). Now I just got off of the phone with another friend of mine (a totally illrelevant person who doesnt even know this work friend) and she told me that giving a gift card at a bridal shower is tacky so I told her I had thought about maybe giving her a nice pair of silk PJs or a robe and she told me thats even worse than a gift card and suggested I get a crystal picture frame or vase… but now Im confused… how is getting someone a crystal frame or vase better than a nice silk robe or a gift card? My friend told me that I should think about my “bridal shower’ (if I have one) and how would I like someone giving me a tacky gift card? I basically explained to her that I would rather a gift card than a stupid crystal vase or frame… like I thought the sole purpose of not having registry was to avoid gifts you didnt want? What if shes not “into” crystal frames or vases? I know thats a classic weddng gift but just because shes getting married doesnt mean she wants that
Personally Im not having a registry for two reasons… 1. I dont need anything and 2. I really want anything and I esspecially dont want a random gift… I would prefer nothing at all (and its not to sound ungrateful either) If I get her a random gift that would kind of make me a hypocrite since I dont want a random gift… but anynow back to my question… when did gift cards become tacky?
Post # 3
I think a gift card is just fine, especially if she doesnt have a registry. If it was a close friend I would suggest something for her home, but since its a work friend you probably dont know her tastes. Go with the gift card! I love them 🙂
Post # 4
I would do the gift card since she doesn’t have a registry. Not everyone (me for example) is crazy about the crystal items for their home, and they may not get used even though they are a very nice gift.
Post # 5
I think gift cards are great gifts! Much better then a gift that is taste specific.
Post # 6
I normally always try to bring an actual gift to a shower but I, in no way, think that gift cards are tacky. I probably wouldn’t go the silk pj’s route since I doubt her FI would get much use out of them but I think a gift card is perfectly acceptable.
Post # 7
I don’t think there is anything wrong with gifting a gift card. Buf if you want to get her a gift I would get it at a store like Bed Bath and Beyond or Macys and get a gift receipt so if she doesn’t like it she can return it for something she will like.
Post # 8
I think a gift card would be great! It might be different if she had registered and you knew she needed something specific, but in this case it sounds like it would be better to get her something you know she could use than something that might not be her taste.
Post # 10
if she doesn’t have a registry, i think the gift card is fine. usually i think of showers as a time to give boxed gifts, but since you don’t know what she needs, it seems more logical to give her a gift card rather than some pjs she probably doesn’t want.
Post # 11
A gift card is perfect if she doesnt have a registry. That way she can get what she wants.
Post # 12
I was didn’t register because what I wanted was to NOT get a bunch of expensive stuff for which I had no room or want that got sent to Goodwill unused. Honestly, I was worried I’d still get 50 frames since that’s what people give brides when they don’t register for kitchen stuff.
I also didn’t have a shower. Having a shower, but not wanting gifts is a bit of a contradiction. I’d go w/ the gift card though.
Post # 14
I think in this case (especially because she hadn’t registered) either cash or a gift card would be fine (curious why you wouldn’t give cash – I actually hate those AMEX gift cards, because you have to keep track of the balance on the card).
That said: I usually hate gifting cash and would rather gift a gift (because that’s how I am). I prefer receiving a gift vs. cash. However, if I don’t know of something specific that person wants, then I have no problem giving them cash or a gift card to a favorite store.
I have a friend who sounds a lot like your friend – she always says giving a gift card seems impersonal… but, I think it’s a better gift option then some random gift.
Stick with what you’d like for yourself and you will rarely go wrong, IMO!
Post # 15
Personally, I love gift cards and would prefer that over any gift, unless the gift giver knew exactly what I wanted. I love love love to shop and having a gift card allows me to purchase what I want and not have to deal with getting something that I would never use or like. With a gift card I could get something I love or put it toward something that I love.
EDIT: If you opt for a frame, make sure that it can be either hung up or displayed on a stand. There is nothing more frustrating than getting a frame that you can’t put where you want it to be. I know this from personal experience 🙂
Post # 16
For a shower I would feel funny just giving a gift card or money because the main event of the shower is the bride opening gifts. If I couldn’t attend a shower, then I would, but not if I was actually going.
I’ve never been to a shower for someone who hasn’t registered. If it was me, I would probably do something small that someone could always use more of or is fun (oven mitts, tea towels, fun wine glasses, odd kitchen gadget that she probably doesn’t have) and a gift card. If you know where she at least likes to shop, then a more expensive gift with a gift receipt would also probably go over well.