Post # 1
I am in a pickle. My soon-to-be husband’s brother’s fiancee is having a bridal shower. The time line being her shower, our wedding, their wedding. The last time we saw them there was a huge fight over us stealing their thunder by deciding to get married a month before them. And now I am invited to her bridal shower. I, myself, am not having a bridal shower.
Some obstacles that are attributing to this situation is my trepidation of attending this event at all and then trying to come up with a gift to give her. She has already stated, jokingly, that instead of party favors they are just going to give away stuff because they already have everything they need and really they need to cut back more than anything. So that, the “what to get someone that has everything” dilemma. Along with the “I am a broke college student”. Compounded by the fact that I have to find them an impossible gift twice! Once for the shower and another for the wedding.
I hope that it doesn’t sound like I am complaining too much. This is my first bridal shower and circumstances could definitely be better.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
Post # 3
So are they not registered anywhere? If not, I would get just a gift card for the wedding. The shower presents a dilemma though.
Post # 4
If she isn’t registered somewhere, get her a gift certificate for a facial or a massage as a shower gift. It isn’t another piece of stuff to stick in the house.
Post # 5
I say you give a gift card to a store like Pottery Barn, Crate and Barrel, Williams Sonoma or Sur la table. It’s easy and they can find something they like.
Post # 6
I second the spa gift certificate for the shower. She could get a mani/pedi for the wedding. OR you could find out where they’re staying the night of the wedding and offer to pay for it. Or pay for room service breakfast for them or something? That would be cute!
For the wedding, just go with cash. Plain and simple. FI and I are in the same boat for the most part. We’re already settled into our house and we don’t need a lot. BUT we’d really appreciate cash since we’re saving for a house reno. We’ve still registered, but mostly for the sake of my showers.
Post # 7
I’d get her a gift certificate to a therapist.
If you decide to attend (which I think would go a long way toward patching things up about “stealing their [totally imaginary] thunder”), then get a nice card and a gift certificate to either a facial, mani, pedi, or some other such service.
Post # 8
One of my friends always gives a canvas tote bag with the date of the wedding embroidered on it. A cute and thoughful gift that doesn’t break the bank.
Post # 9
I would give a gift that lends itself a little more to the guy – for example – if he cooks maybe get them something for the kitchen, if he really likes camping and it’s something they do together but it’s really his thing get them a nice tent. Maybe not something that blatant but something more for him than her.
Post # 10
LOL why is she having a shower if she’s not registered anywhere and already has everything? I guess a spa certificate is always a good gift, and yes just do cash/check for the wedding.
Post # 11
I’d get her a gift certificate to a spa for the shower and a restaurant for the wedding. Done and done. I wouldn’t put too much money into either one, it should be the thought that counts. And given the fact that you guys don’t get along too well, that’s a very nice/thoughtful gift.
Post # 12
You could always get her something cute for wedding day, a getting ready outfit perhapse. “Bride” tank or hoodie? May a future Mrs. ______. Just married flip flops? Those usually aren’t that expensive and are kind of fun.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t do the “Just Married” flip flops based on someone else’s post that they cause horrible blisters and don’t work well, but if you dislike her that much…haha. I would go for a gift certificate somewhere rather than a thing, or you could get her a nice blanket. I have too many blankets, but I still love getting new ones all the time.