Bridal Shower Gift Rant…. fake handbags – I know I'm a jerk

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d be sure to include all of this in your thank-you note to her–that would probably solve your problem of ever having to worry about getting a ‘sub-par’ gift from her again…or any gift for that matter. 

Post # 3
3744 posts
Sugar bee

You’re right – you are!

Post # 4
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

While I would be embarrassed to be given knock offs I would just say thanks and move on.  Absolutely do not talk to other people about it, if it got back to her she would likely be quite sad/ embarrassed. 

Post # 5
357 posts
Helper bee

WeddingBecks: As long as it’s not a My Little Pony Friendship handbag, I say you should just accept it gracefully.

Post # 6
8455 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

WeddingBecks:  Would you be just as upset if she had shown up without a gift?  You could just throw the items away and call it a day.  Venting about a gift that someone went to the trouble of designing for you just makes you seem ungrateful.

Post # 7
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I just wasted 2 mins of my life I can’t get back reading that.

Post # 9
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’d just toss them or donate them to charity and go on about your business.  Life is just way too short to get upset over this!  Who cares if the gift wasn’t that great? 

Post # 11
4413 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

WeddingBecks:  I’ve received plenty of gifts in my life that I would honestly have rather gotten nothing than whatever space-taking-up ugly POS someone gave me. But the Bee loses its mind whenever someone mentions not liking a gift, so this thread is going to go to hell quickly. Apparently nobody on this site has ever received some fugly borderline offensive garbage gift before!

Post # 12
588 posts
Busy bee

Is it not possible that she wasn’t lying and they were made for you in particular? You said she values nice bags, so maybe she really thought these were nice/your taste? I’m not sure why you’d be angry. It’s better to just assume that she was trying to be thoughtful, thank her, appreciate the gesture, and move on.

Post # 13
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


iarebridezilla:  I have.  Plenty of times.  The art of being an adult is to smile graciously, thank the giver, and move on.  It is always better to take the high road and be classy.  After all, in the grand scheme of life, does it really matter.  I am lucky that I have the perspective age gives you (I am an encore bride in my early 40s).  Some things are not worth getting upset over.  IMO, this is one of them.

Post # 14
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

This is less about the gift and more about the fact that she kind of lied and over-exaggerated her gift in an attempt to fool you on its worth.  That is unfortunate!  While a gift can be worth anything to anyone (be it $$$ or sentimental value), I think it’s silly for anyone to attempt to artificially inflate that value for no good reason other than to make themselves look better.  

But as PPs said, it’s best to just let it go.  Get rid of the bag if it makes you feel better!

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