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Let me start out by saying my wedding is taking place in my hometown which is 2,000 miles from where I currently reside. Two out of three of my bridesmaid still live in my hometown.  Obviously since I reside far away, I go infrequently and when I do I am jammed with wedding planning task.

The wedding is set for Feb 7, 2009 and my final time in my hometown proir to the wedding is Dec 24 - 28 (not such an ideal time to take care of things but great for family). 

One of my bridesmaids has decided to throw a bridal shower during this time frame, which I am grateful for except that she sends me an e-mail with the statement that the shower will be on Saturday Dec 27th at 10AM.  I wouldn't mind but essentially that cuts out half of the invitees from being able to attend as they would be required to drive 2.5 hrs to attend.  The original plan was friday evening plus a bachelorette party afterwards, making the girls time worth their 5 hour round trip drive. 

I am unsure what her motivation was to change the date and time so suddenly without discussion, and I am afraid I will offend her if I tell her of my displeasure with the timing.  Unfortunately I am more concerned about being able to spend time with some old friends than I am about gifts or games...

Any ideas or suggestions?

Ask her and suggest a change back to the original proposal. You don't have to be loud, angry or rude. A question is a question.

You can also point out the benefits of having it on Friday afternoon...and remind her some guests would have to drive super early or not come at all.

Are you still keepin' the bachelorette on friday? That could be another reason...maybe she knows your friends will stay over and be there in the morning. 

V, that was in the message as well, that the bachelorette party would happen they day before the wedding.

 Thanks for the advice you guys.  I guess I will attempt to see what her motivation is.