(Closed) Bridal Shower: groom or no groom?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I’ve only ever been to showers with the groom there. Like you said, they’re his gifts too. Some of the guys just came for the gift opening and not the whole thing. Perhaps that’s an option?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My FI actually wants to come to our shower but the only thing holding him back is the fact that he’ll be one man facing 902834 women haha. Poor thing. He’s still debating on it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’ve never been to one where the groom was there.  The groom always went out to a bar with all the other husbands/boyfriends/uncles that showed up.  And then just came back in time to load up the car(s).

If he doesn’t want to be there don’t make him.  

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

He’s not planning to.  I’d love for him to pop in for a few minutes, say hello, and then leave … but he can’t with his work schedule that day.  Regardless, I wouldn’t want him there the whole time.  

From all the bridal showers I’ve attended (easy 30+) the groom has never been there – FYI

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’ve never been to one where the groom was there the whole time.  But often he shows up near the end with flowers or something.  I’m working on convincing FI to do this for my shower on Sunday : )  I don’t think it’s a big deal at all to open couple presents yourself unless FI really wants to open them with you.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My fiance came the whole time.  I really wanted him there since there were a few people he hadn’t met before, and because all of the presents were for both of us.  He had a great time.  Anything that involves tasty food (and gifts!) usually makes him happy.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we just had our shower this past sunday and FI was with me the entire day. we had a pretty big shower (70 ppl total) and FMIL and i both insisted FI be there; he was actually excited about the food from the beginning and didnt need much convincing 🙂

both of our dads were there too 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It depends on how traditional your family is. My mother would be mad if my FI showed up to my shower!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

I forced J to come to mine. The way I see it: 1) it kept my aunts from doing horrible things like toilet paper bride and other nonsense that I really didn’t want to do, and 2) if I have to be in a room with all of his female family members who I had NEVER met before, he needed to be there, at VERY least to whisper names to me, and 3) if I have to deal with stuff like showers, so does he – I HATE being the center of attention. Don’t get me started on the whole necessity of a big wedding nonsense……..

His dad and my dad came too, so he wouldn’t feel so alone.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mine dropped me off and then he showed up at the end and played one of the games where he answered questions to see how well he knew me (I’d done the same thig earlier)!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve never been to one where the groom was there unless it was a couple’s shower and other men were there.  I have been to some where the groom showed up the last few minutes to help load gifts and say hello to everyone.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve never been to a bridal shower where the groom stayed the entire time, usually they go drinking/golfing and show up when its over to help pack up the car

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

He doesn’t want to go and I am not going to put him somewhere he is uncomfortable.  Him and my mom are both pretty traditional so they would both feel weird with him there I think. Better to leave it alone – I will share the gifts with him and we’ll both be happy.

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