(Closed) Bridal Shower Guest List

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I did bridal party, mom, aunts, and cousins on my side as well as close friends. I have a small family so this was ok.

On FI’s side, I did FMIL, grandmothers, and aunts. No cousins. I did not invite anyone I didn’t know well.

I don’t know about inviting girlfriends of FI’s friends unless you are close with them. I invited DH’s best man and groomsman’s wives becuase I know them and becuase they are married, but otherwise probably wouldn’t have if I didn’t know them really well. No FI’s mother’s friends becuase family will be there and she can talk to them. And a no to the 2nd cousins and great aunt’s of FI unless you have met them and truly want them there. I think inviting them might make it out of hand.

Post # 5
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817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

Mine is being jointly thrown by my mom’s friend, my aunt, and my FMIL, so a slightly different situation but I think the same etiquette applies. My thinking was, it’s a party to give me presents, so I feel awkward asking anyone I don’t know well to do that. So I am inviting: bridesmaids, close female friends, local aunts, and my mom and FMIL are inviting some of their friends. Mostly friends of theirs who I know pretty well and would expect to be there, although apparently FMIL is also inviting friends of hers who are invited to the wedding but who I haven’t met or have only met once. (Feels a little awkward, but she’s hosting, so whatever.) I was at a shower for my friend last year where it was like 40 women from her mom’s Bible study group, and she was literally sitting there going “Oh, Debbie Jones gave me a beautiful vase! Thanks so much… (scans room, scans room, Debbie raises her hand) Debbie!” She said she wanted to die. Anyway, I don’t think you need to invite every woman invited to the wedding, just the close ones. You list makes sense. I think, if you’re questioning it, no one is going to complain about not having to buy you two presents, and just be sure to spend a couple of extra minutes at the wedding.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

I would ask myself this: If I received an invitation to HER shower, would I think “Oh how sweet, I’m so excited!” or would I think “What the hell is she inviting ME for? I guess she thinks I owe her a present now. Who am I going to SIT with? God I hate these things!” That will give you your answer. 

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