(Closed) Bridal Shower Guest List – Need Advice!

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I would call your future mother in law and get her opinion.  She will probably have a better idea if they will travel or not.  Also, some people who are far away still want to be included and they are offended if they don’t get an invite.  But others who are far away are offended by getting an invite because it makes them feel like you are trying to get a gift from them even though you know they can’t make the trip.  Your FMIL is likely to have a better idea of how her family would react and what they would prefer.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@sagbride:  Totally feel free to tell your FMIL that you need to keep the guest list low because of the cost.  I had to do the same thing with my MIL because she wanted to invite EVERY woman on their side that was invited to the wedding.  And they were all pretty local.  She ended up paying for part of the shower since she had such a large guest list.  Hopefully you can work something out with her : )

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Is his side planning on throwing you a shower? My MOH is doing mine on my side and the only people from his side that are invited to that one are my FMIL, his grandmothers, and his sisters. His aunt is throwing me one as well and doing all the rest of their side.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’d call your MIL and talk it over with her. I would include them in the one his aunt is hosting.  You should ask your MIL and just let her know that the shower hostess need to keep the size limit down because of the location and cost.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

yeah, I just had to ask, because I was kinda in the same situation…I didnt want to exclude anyone but didnt want my girls to have to spend a ton on a shower! But, I also didnt want to seem like I was ASKING for a shower…so my MOH asked her if they had anything planned on their side, turns out they were planning on throwing one & everything worked out. I don’t get a lot of info unless I ask…and I feel weird asking because I dont want anyone to think I’m expecting something… If they arent throwing you one, honestly its who you can afford/want to invite…could you maybe just invite mom, gma, and sisters like I’m doing?  and if not, thats perfectly fine!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I made it easy and gave a list of ALL females being invited to the wedding to my MOH for the shower invites.  Truth be told, I don’t expect most of FI’s friends and family to attend as they are either far away or aren’t close to me, but that’s OK.  I’d rather extend the offer and have them decline than have them feel left out.

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