Post # 1
My bridal shower is this weekend, and after looking at my registry, I feel an incredible amount of guilt for all the gifts I’m going to be getting :(.
My FI and I have mostly everything we need but my bridal party urged me to register where I wanted, so I went with bloomingdales. Besides the china set, I tried to keep it as modest as I could with mainly housewares like cherry pitters, mugs, cutting boards, cookie sheets, a salad bowl, colanders, cheaper hand mixers, etc. with some random splurges (cheese board set/candleholder/fancy frame).
I’m receiving a good mix of everything and I think my FMIL bought me the china set, but now I just feel guilty for having a party at all. I feel so grateful but also so bad about asking for anything.
I guess I just wanted to vent and see if any of you feel this way.
Post # 3
Just enjoy be happy that you have so many people around you that WANT to shower you with gifts. Hope you have fun!
Post # 4
Relax and just bask in the love. If they didn’t want to throw you a shower or buy gifts, they wouldn’t.
Post # 5
OMG thank god someone else feels this way! Our shower is Sunday. My fiancé and I live together as well and our apartment is much too small for any new gadgets so we went the honeymoon registry way. I am having the hardest time with it. I feel bad that people have been so generous, worry that they gave more than they normally would because it was more monetary then actual gifts. Worry that they are upset that we registered this way. I have a huge amount of guilt over every dollar my parents and bridesmaids have spent towards the shower. Its honestly making me feel sad inside. Everyone has been asking if I am excited about it and I think I am more sad than anything!
I am so glad someone else is feeling this way too!!!
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. I really am so blessed that they would think to do this and put so much effort into it.
@DawnaN: I’m so glad we can commiserate together. When I made the registry, it seemed like such an obscure thing. Now that the shower is here, and people have actually bought things I have requested, I can’t help but feel sad and bad. It’s fun until it gets real!
Post # 7
its so insane. never did i imagine that people would spend so much. either i have been spending way less than most and need to bump up my shower giving, or maybe people are including this as their wedding gift also. which is TOTALLY fine!!!
Post # 8
Hey, at least your getting things off your registry, that’s a great thing, don’t feel bad, they know that you want it and will like it so it’s easy gift giving.
I just had my shower last weekend, and most people went completely opposite of my registry, getting random stuff like poor quality hand towels-in the wrong color, cheap (walmart) silverware, etc. I got a few things off my registry, but not the things I needed like dishes, glasses, towels, etc.
I’m praying people pick some of the things off my registry for either the wedding or my other shower in two weeks. Otherwise, I’ll be buying it myself after the wedding.
So be thankful your guests are so willing to purchase the things that you want. They understand that it’s beneficial to you.