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Hello fellow bees! Using an anon name just in case.

So, I have a little predicament and I'm not sure what the best plan of attack is. As a MOH I have to throw a bridal shower in conjunction with the other BMs (MOH2 we'll call her and BM) and Moms that wish to be involved. MOB is very overbearing and keeps telling me what to do (no room for me to be creative). MOH2 is not the biggest fan of me and vice versa. MOH2 is also very unreliable/irresponsible and not quite broke and BM is pretty much broke. Oh....BM hates MOH2 in an uncivil way. I have pretty good finances but I'm in my first real job and trying to get a financial footing- I don't have a ton of cash to spend on this considering other stuff to buy for the wedding. On top of this being my team to work with, the Bride is giving a little too much input. You know, the kind where you feel like no matter what you do it won't be good enough and it would almost be better if she were planning it herself? 

So, Bride wants me to work with the other girls and mom's on planning (obv) but they're 2 hrs away. Already, it feels like too many cooks are in the kitchen and nothing is getting done because no one talks to each other. I'd like to just man it myself but that isn't logical or something I can afford. It also hurts me when Bride tells me to dictate 'cheaper' tasks to BM and MOH2- as if I'm loaded and can pick up the rest.

My questions are:

- How would you handle the Bride and her demands? A lot of her requests can be done but not all of it, like she's expecting.

- What suggestions can you offer to make sure that the 5 of us give her a great shower without emotions and tight finances getting in the way? I'm pretty thrifty but its hard to fathom doing everything while the other girls sit around (and Bride wants them included) and are hours away. Not to mention, our schedules are polar opposites!

I'm not sure where to start really and any advice you lovely bees can offer with getting the ball rolling would be AMAZING!

Thanks, guys

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Invites, location and date are already done which is very helpful! In talking with the bride first, is kind of where this confusion had started. Her expectations are not like any bridal shower I've ever been to. I know how to throw a good party ;) but it seems showers she's experienced and set her standard are the opposite of ones I've experienced. I guess I'll have to talk to her again and jot down the things she repeats.

I have no invite list yet and with the amount of games and prizes she wants to distribute I feel as if theres no need for a favor because everyone will get something and on top of that she wants favors for everyone....

Do you think it would be easier to just dictate to people what they're responsible for? I have a hard time seriously thinking about this since I already know they're a bit on the flakey side...

Coordination with the bride has to be made, of course, but that is usually about date/time and a suggested guest list.  Other than that, the person(s) hosting the shower are doing so as a gift to the bride. At that point, the bride's "job" is to show up, look pretty, and smile, I always say ... meaning leave the planning and details to the hostess(es). That way, they can plan a celebration that is within their budget, using their own creativity to "shower" the bride with love and in celebration ... because that is what a shower is, correct?