(Closed) Bridal shower help! I didn't even know they existed!

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

there’s a present time, usually some games, sometimes a meal or at least snacks. they’re a lot of fun! 🙂

Post # 5
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

A Bridal Shower is an occasion to “Shower” the bride to be with gifts to start her new life with the groom. It is a gift giving event, and only those invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. When you say you are having 2 people coming to help at your wedding, are those your guests? If so, I’m not sure if you should accept a shower.

Post # 7
2098 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Awww…this is such a cute, sweet post!!

You are going to be in for a treat. Of course I haven’t had one yet, but I have two slated before my wedding. I have been to a ton and have thrown a few myself. That is so sweet she is doing this for you! Here is what you can expect:


– She may or may not ask you a theme. A quick Google search can give you ideas. Themes range from a specific room in the house to “Honey Do” showers to “Stock the Bar” to a couples shower. I was even invited once to a “Honeymoon” shower where the gifts were for either their honeymoon or for date nights, etc. Showers can also be by color…perhaps your favorite.

– She will ask for a list of invitees and their addresses. Invite women who are close to you and Fiance like friends, family and close co-workers. If it’s a couples shower, you can invite mixed company. She will address and send the invites or email invite.

– You show up about 30 min before your actual shower begins. Most women like to wear something cute like a dress but honestly, depending on your style and the style of the shower, you can wear what feels comfortable for you. Since she is hosting this event for you, you will want to bring her or any other hosts of the shower, a nice gift. It can be a nice serving tray or platter, a nice serving bowl, linen guest towels or as my personal favorite…anything monogrammed. If you know a special hobby she likes, say cooking French food, a nice cookbook or something geared toward that is ok too.

– You will mingle, chat with other guests and there could be a few games or activities. Snacks or a meal will be served. Sometimes there is alcohol, sometimes there isn’t.

– She will then call everyone together and you get to open your presents. You open each one and show it to your guests.

– Thank everyone for coming and offer to help clean up. She will help get everything in your car.


I read you weren’t expecting this so you may not have registered. That’s ok…it’s not a must. But this would be a great time to do that if you choose too.


I just want to add we are having a very small Destination Wedding. This means at my two showers, most of the women I invite will not be at my wedding. Of course anyone has the option to choose to come or not, but on the invites my hosts are putting something to the effect of ” (Bride) will be married in (City). Let’s shower her before she goes!” Your host can say something similiar. This is totally tasteful as you are letting people know the situation and allowing them to come if they would like. You didn’t ask for the shower. It was offered. 


Have a really great time! Enjoy it!

Post # 8
7367 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I assume everyone knows it will be a courthouse wedding with no guests, so there is nothing wrong with accepting such a kind offer. How nice!! 

OP, you should make sure that while you’re opening presents, somebody is recording who gave what so you can send sincere thank you notes. The hostess of the shower will probably designate someone, but if she doesn’t, you should ask your mom, sister, niece, someone with a pen to discretly do this important task. 

Have fun, I’m so excited for you!


Post # 9
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That’s a great idea! How nice of this friend to offer to do this for you! Accept gladly, offer to help, and enjoy your time :)))

Post # 10
2098 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Daisy_Mae:  That’s a great reminder! I forgot that part. 🙂 I saw on Pinterest (of course) to bring removeable labels and have the person tracking your presents to write the name of the giver on the label and affix to present, so nothing gets mixed up!


OP…I also forgot to add to remember to write thank you notes after your shower to both your hostess and all the people that gave your a present.

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