Post # 1
As I have posted before, my sister is getting married just two weeks before I am, and I am her MOH. Myself and three other bridesmaids are hosting her bridal shower. For the shower I’m having to fly half way across the country, and pay for a hotel for the two nights I’ll be in town and with my wedding coming up, money is tight.
Right now I am SOOOO frustrated that my sister’s FMIL keeps inviting MORE people to the shower!!!! WTF?! She is not paying for the shower, and these are women who my sister does not even know!! Out of 60 invited guests right now, HALF of them are her invitees!! If she wanted to have all of her girlfriends at a shower, she should have hosted another one herself!!
Now the four of us are stuck paying double the price to have all these extra women at the shower. 🙁
Post # 3
Oh no!! Can’t you spend the weekend at your sister’s place?? I would talk to the mother and let her know that money is tight and if she wants all her friends to come, does she mind chipping in?
Post # 4
@kingytobe: No, she lives about an hour and a half from where the shower will be taking place. She has been a little unsure of where they were going to live, so we planned for the shower to be in the same town as the wedding and it’s a bit of a drive to go back and forth so much.
That said, I did ask for her FMIL’s phone number and email address from the start because I wanted to give her teh opportunity to invite a few people (not 30). But sister has been reluctant as there is a lot of tension between her and the FMIL to begin with.
I just cannot imagine inviting that many people to a shower that someone else is throwing. 🙁
Should I try to call her now and ask for some sort of contribution? I’m not sure how my sister would feel about this???
Post # 5
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking for a contribution, if you call and are polite about it, hopefully she’ll be understanding! Just let her know that she’s invited as many people as were already invited and increased the party by 100%