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Bridal shower NIGHTMARES!

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  • poll: Bridal shower planning experiences ......
    I had a great time planning the shower, everyone was very helpful : (6 votes)
    24 %
    It was a horrible experience! No one helped out... : (3 votes)
    12 %
    It was okay, I had help, but it was still stressful : (8 votes)
    32 %
    I never planned one or Other... tell us : (8 votes)
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    Juliemd414    7/25/09   STL

    Anyone have any stories about bridal shower nightmares?

    Here's mine:

    Myself and the bride's sister were MOH at her wedding.  Her sister wasn't the most reliable person as far as the planning of the shower went.. (a huge shower of 50+ people)

    So, I proceeded to plan the shower on my own.  I was planning from OOT since I live in a different state then the bride and her sister.  

    I was on a limited budget so I had to figure out ways of planning the shower where I wouldn't go broke.  I asked my Mom for help since she lives in the area the shower was going to be held. 

    A friend of a friend of my Mom's owned a bar in a nice location - a cute place.  He said we could use his space for free and bring in our own food as long as we bought coffee and soda from him.  Good deal right?  well..........

    Long story short... not really short i guess -  He ended up double booking the bar for another event that was a little bit bigger then ours....  My Mom had called him a few days before the shower to go over the details and make sure he would be there to let us in to set up since the bar is typically closed during the day.  He says "what? I don't have your event written in my calendar??  I actually have anther event written in."  My Mom was so upset, she called her friend that new the bar owner and her friend was on the phone with him in a flash asking what was going on.  

    Apparently when she told the bar owner about the event and had all the details worked out... he never wrote it down and well.... he booked the space for another event!!

    We had no options because the shower was only days away and 50+ guests that were planning to come to the event at that location.  The bar owner wasn't very nice about the situation that was HIS FAULT for double booking and I know we booked first....

    we ended up having the shower in his office/storage space! yuk it was so horrible! My mom and I and the only BM willing to help, went in really early and cleaned and cleaned and moved things and decorated as best we could.  After hours of cleaning and decorating, we had the place looking much better.  It was a very big room, but still a tight fit for 50+ people.  The bride was super understanding and had a great time.

    The brides sister showed up 20mins after the shower had begun...  she was in charge of bring the decorations and helping to decorate... which thank goodness we bought our own, knowing how she was the whole time while planning.  

    She also had the nerve to bitch at me for ruining her sister's shower! 

     Whats your bridal shower nightmare?? 

     
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    ilovenycmissie    September 2009   nyc

    aw you did your best, stuff happens

     
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    MissStellar    May 2, 2009   MI

    I think your nightmare wins the cake... :)

    Great job making the best out of everything!

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    My own? LoL ok it wasn't that bad. It was literally food, gifts, cake, goodbye. No games, no champagne or beverage, nobody really talked to me, and half the people sat in a different room while I opened gifts. It was super awkward. I had one lady come up and compliment me on my brand new dress. Believe me, I looked nice. I really stressed over it, haha. It was a nice gesture, but I guess it wasn't what i pictured a bridal shower being. And I don't appreciate being at a party and finding myself in the corner by the sodas because nobody is talking to me.

    Ok, one lady did come up to me and talk to me relentlessly about my brother who passed away last year, so I ended up in tears and being really depressed all afternoon. She simply wouldn't let it freakin' go! 

     
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    MoSnow    9/6/09   Colorado - Wyoming

    Ouch! Those are terrible! I am kind of worried mine is going to be just as crazy, but we'll see. I can't wait for the rest of my friends to get married so I can throw them a shower!

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    I had the bride's little sister tell us we were not good friends and send us a hackneyed "Bridal Party Ettiquette" website link when we refused to go over our finalized budget to accomodate her last minute addition of a caterer.  The same girl also borrowed all of her portion of the money from her mother (read: her mother paid her part).  Is she less of a good sister and friend because she couldn't afford to pay her part?  Her logic would say so.

     
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    MissEdamame    July 2009  

    So sorry to hear about the bride's sister. Some people simply don't understand the importance of a nice shower and just figure if people show up and eat, it is successful. Sounds like the bride appreciated all your hard work. Kuddos for being a great MOH!

     

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