Post # 1
A friend of my mom is throwing me a very small shower at her home. I can only invite 13 people total and I’m so lost on exactly I should/shouldn’t invite other than my female family members and future female family members. My two bridesmaids are 1000 miles away. I don’t have but a couple female friends I only hang out with when there’s a group get together but I don’t know if they’d be comfortable being invited to something hosted and attended by 90% people they don’t know or will ever know.
Post # 3
@HeyHey4514: You don’t have to invite exactly 13 people. If she wants to host a small shower she’s probably going to be happy when you invite just family members and it comes out to 10 or so people. Don’t start adding friends just because you can if it’s going to be stressful or awkward.
Post # 4
I read elsewhere that at some showers, it’s expected that all females invited to the wedding are invited to the shower. That wouldn’t work in this case since that would come out to 100 people (would most of them come? no, would there be more than 13 that could/would? likely). I guess I fall into a trap of not wanting to offend anyone. Which also means I have 3 others I’d like to invite but due to other very understandable circumstances, they wouldn’t like to be in the same room with many others who are invited. *sigh*
Post # 5
I definitely didn’t invite all the females to my shower. I invited mostly family and my very closest friends (only two that weren’t actually in the bridal party). We had a fantastic time. I wouldn’t stress over getting exactly 13.