Post # 1
I went into my plans thinking about having just one bridal shower. I am about four mths out from the actual wedding. My matron of honor wanted me to get a list of names together for her. If my Future Mother-In-Law hasn’t said anything about her hosting a party, should I just take it upon myself & just tell her we are having one party? Will that go over okay? Should I have two? I just don’t know much of his side, because they never get together, so it could be a really uncomfortable wedding shower.
What did you ladies do? Or any thoughts on how I should sort this out would be much appreciated.
Post # 3
I had a similar dilemma! Only, Future Mother-In-Law wanted to have a 2nd shower with only their side as a “Welcome To The Family” type thing and I wanted a big altogether type bash. In the end, I’m having two showers to appease Future Mother-In-Law and will be easier to visit with the ladies.
In your situation, I would talk to your Future Mother-In-Law and tell her your matron of honour is planning a shower and if there’s anyone your Future Mother-In-Law thinks should be on the list from that side of the family/friends. If she’s a sane Future Mother-In-Law, she’ll either tell you that she’d like to plan one (like my Future Mother-In-Law did), give you a list, or tell you to decide who to invite. I find it’s always best just to keep the communication open. If she hasn’t mentioned about hosting a party, she may not want to. Or, she hasn’t thought about it yet and will talk to you about it when you bring it up.
Post # 4
I had the same situation. In the end, I just had one! It hurt feelings but I didnt want to be uncomforable. Not to mention my Fiance parents are divorced so he has a step mother as well… I would do what YOU want.
Post # 5
I would just have one if you are all in the same locall. It would be a nice ladies ice breaker.
Post # 6
I am not in this situation thankfully but my cousin had 2 bridal showers and actually it ended up offending alot of people. She has one with just her friends (we are actually pretty close and I wasn’t invited) then one with family and the family one felt like a party just so she could get gifts. Needless to say we aren’t really close anymore.