Bridal Shower Pickle!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@LJlove:  I would just thank them over and over and really stress that you feel awful they can’t be at the wedding! I know at our church we’re all pretty close, but their is NO WAY we could invite them all to our wedding! What you could do is have a little get together in the reception hall (if you have one) at your church when you get back from the honey moon. Just to celebrate with your church family and let them all know how thankful you are for them in your lives. Maybe then you could say at the shower that you can’t wait to celebrate with them when you get back. 


Note: I would definitely foot the bill of the little get together in the reception hall though. And I wouldn’t let it get too big! LIke a double reception or anything, maybe just an hour thing after a sunday or wednesday night service! 🙂 Hope that helps a little! 🙂 

Post # 4
2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Tell FI’s aunt the challenge. She might have some ideas you aren’t considering. She might even be thinking inviting them to the shower is a way of including them, instead of it being a major faux pas. And she might decide to talk to them herself and explain. And these ladies may not think anything of it at all. I’m learning on the Bee that not everyone feels this way.

Honestly, this shower isn’t your event. It’s hers. You are the guest of honor. I don’t feel of course, she did anything wrong on purpose, but you are right…it’s a pickle. Just be honest and allow her to handle.

There isn’t anything you can technically do at this point except be gracious and kind, which you very much sound like already! =)


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