Bridal Shower Planning

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I can’t do much other than offer you condolences.  That’s just wacky that people can’t be bothered to help.  

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cornomom:  Your sister is lucky to have you.

Unfortunately, there really isn’t any way that you can make the other BM contribute to the cost of the shower.

Given that you are the only one bearing the burden, can you not scale back and have simpler refreshments at the shower?  What time of day is the shower?

When you listed off the foods you are having at the “reception” were you talking about the bridal shower? Or, are you catering the reception too?

It’s winter and it’s Christmas. What about a soup and biscuits shower? Heat the soups in crockpots and serve in mugs-easy for the guests to manage.

Don’t be the “nice” sister to the extent that you let your sister walk all over you. Tell her that you will be happy for her to use the linens at the wedding if she splits the cost with you. You can then sell them after the wedding and split the proceeds.

Post # 5
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That must be so irritating! I’m sorry none of your sister’s friends are willing to help!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can totally understand being frustrated!!! 

Don’t have much advice other than cut back/simplify the food served at the shower (I’m assuming that’s the menu you wrote out?).  I’m not sure about the 4 food items for every 8 people – that seems like a lot!!  Maybe if you cut back the other bridesmaid will be more likely to chip in.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oooh, I did just have an idea.  I know invites have gone out, but what about changing the shower into a cookie exchange with bridal shower?  Have everyone bring cookies (or what ever) and then give 2 from each to the Bride and the rest are food for the shower.  That would leave you in charge of only drinks. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@cornomom:  I agree with @julies1949:  that you cannot force the other bridesmaid to contribute to this shower. I also agree that, based on your financial situation, you likely are going far above and beyond what you need to do to host a beautiful shower for your sister.

I know that you are only seeking help with payment for the food. However, you may want to reconsider the purchase of linens (and, if you’ve already purchased them, you may want to return them for a refund) as well as the amount of food you’re planning to serve.  Many people are accustomed to attending bridal showers with a more limited menu and where pretty, themed, paper products, not formal china and flatware, are used.  By returning the linens, your sister will be on her own to rent or purchase whatever linens she may need for her wedding reception.

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