Post # 1
So we had our first shower over the weekend which was a lot of fun. We said something to my FMIL about using something and she freaked out, saying we were not allowed to use them until after the wedding. Is this true?
Post # 3
Nah. We used all of our stuff right away. I understand that some people think it’s bad to use it just in case you break up before the wedding (because you should technically give the gifts back) but we were pretty confident that wasn’t going to happen 🙂
Post # 4
I had never even thought about it! Some stuff I saved but…they were things like an engraved frame. Other stuff I used right away.
Post # 5
No, just be sure you send the thank-you note before you throw away the card/box!
Post # 6
We used all of ours right away.
Post # 7
If you want to go by proper etiquette – you’re not supposed to use any gifts from pre-wedding events (bridal shower, engagement party, ect) until after the wedding, because if they wedding were to be called off you are supposed to return gifts to the giver.
FI and I used some things anyways – if we would have happened to call off the wedding we would have reimbursed the gifter for the used gift. We did, however, not spend any of the money we have recieved.
Post # 8
Thank you! I wrote my thank you notes already! There were only 2 things for sure we knew we were going to use because we don’t have them. I figured the reasoning was if we broke up we had to give them back.
Post # 9
@ravenxwonder: Technically you aren’t supposed to, because if the wedding was called off, you would need to return them to the senders. If god forbid that were to happen, you could always just replace the item and return that to the sender.
Post # 10
proper etiquette says you aren’t supposed to use anything. (And I *definitely* wouldn’t tell anyone if I were going to!) If you think about it, it’s kind of rude to use it. Like, people are giving this to you for your marriage/wedding, so aren’t they expecting you to save it for that?